What would you do if...

dianamc75January 20, 2014

You found a handwritten religious (Christian) inscription on the top of your island cabinets (which will soon be covered by a countertop when said countertop arrives and is installed) that was done without your knowledge and/or consent. I know who is responsible (independent installer hired by the cabinet company). He doesn't know I saw it. Kitchen company I am certain is unaware. Would it bother you? What would you do?

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Hm. I'd probably want to complain but might think twice about stirring the pot. I wouldn't care for it and I suppose others who might work with this installer in the future might also not care for it.

    Bookmark   January 20, 2014 at 1:43PM
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I would probably tell the company to let the installer know not to write anything on a customer's cabinets as someone less understanding than you might be bothered, but I wouldn't get into specifics and I wouldn't make a fuss.

    Bookmark   January 20, 2014 at 1:53PM
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i would probably say something, but to whom I said it and how I said it would probably depend on knowing more facts -- how it was written (pencil, pen knife, etc), the nature of the inscription (not all messages, Christian or otherwise, are equal) and the apparent intent (was it challenging a homeowner of an apparently or obviously different faith, did it say bless this kitchen or what?) and probably other factors -- including whether the person responsible was someone I was comfortable with or if I got the creeps from him or her.

If the person was a charming gem of a craftsman and the message was bless this kitchen and all who enjoy it, I'd smile and probably move on -- maybe say something to the person responsible to say thanks for the kind thoughts but to be careful because other people might not take kindly to such things. Otherwise, I'd probably say something to someone they are working for. If it was threatening, I might call the cops. I don't think there is a one fits all answer to the limited info you gave.

    Bookmark   January 20, 2014 at 2:28PM
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It was scrawled: "Jesus is the eternal bread of life" and below that "Amen" and then something unintelligible. Above all of this was a drawing of a large loaf of bread.


    Bookmark   January 20, 2014 at 3:07PM
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robo (z6a)

To me it's weird that it was the installer -- I could picture a religious craftsperson 'signing' his or her work, like an inscription woven into a rug or something. But more the maker of the cabinet, less the installer.

    Bookmark   January 20, 2014 at 3:07PM
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Carrie B

It would definitely bother me. It's inconsiderate, and worse than that, it is graffiti and even destruction of property as far as I'm concerned. Certainly a fire-able offense. I'd say something, but what & to whom would depend on who it was, my relationships, etc.

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    Bookmark   January 20, 2014 at 3:26PM
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Regardless of the message and its intent, an installer has no right to tag your personal property. Even if the part is going to be covered by a countertop, it's defacement.

Now, I might let it go unmentioned. Or not. It's your call depending on all the factors mentioned above by others.

    Bookmark   January 20, 2014 at 3:33PM
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I probably would say something, as it is not something that should be done ever. Many homeowners would be very offended. On our last build one of the young framers scribbled the F$&@ word with many !!!! in several places on the wood 2x4s. I was not happy about that and complained.

    Bookmark   January 20, 2014 at 3:34PM
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I agree, a "Bless this Kitchen and All Who Eat Here, is one thing, a bit presumtuous, but otherwise benign. But a specific and divisive statement supporting one faith as being the "bread of life" is quite another.

I think the test is this: imagine the deity mentioned was one that isn't Christian. Say, Buddha, Krishna or Bael, which wouldn't go over as well with many ardent Christians who would feel like their beliefs were being challenged. Which is precisely why the message, as described, is inappropriate.

I would mention it to the company, and perhaps the installer as well. I'd say something such as that you would have preferred that it not been done, but not ask for any re-do or consideration. The cabinets are your property, and posting a concealed religious statement, without your consent is a form of vandalism. However, I'd paint it over with BIN, and forget it


    Bookmark   January 20, 2014 at 4:21PM
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Personally, since it's going to be covered up, it's kind of a nice 'blessing' for the house...the intent seems to be good. Maybe that's how he signs his work, but it is a bit unusual.

Unfortunately, I could think of worse things that someone could write...but if it makes you uncomfortable, I would tell the cabinet company.

L- I agree with you, but I'd be fine with Buddha, etc. blessing my house. As long as everyone is thinking good thoughts, I'll take all the help I can get! :)

This post was edited by lavender_lass on Mon, Jan 20, 14 at 17:27

    Bookmark   January 20, 2014 at 5:24PM
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I am not religious and so if it was me I would definitely mention it to whoever was in charge, the GC or the sub whoever. It would be just a "someone wrote this and I want it removed."

For me - this would be inappropriate.

    Bookmark   January 20, 2014 at 5:33PM
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No one should be writing anything at all on your cabinets. That is bizarre, so would give me the creeps. I wonder what he wrote on the bottom of the cabinets that you can't see. What was used to write it? I would probably sand it out just because I wouldn't want the installer's presence to remain in my house, lol. I'd always know it was there otherwise.

It's nice to know people are scrawling graffiti around our homes when they are working. HO's find all sorts of trash in the walls too. One gal here reported they were using the closet in their new build as a urinal. Something is very wrong with this picture.

    Bookmark   January 20, 2014 at 6:25PM
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I'm a Christian and I think leaving that message was inappropriate on SOMEONE ELSE'S property. It doesn't offend me, but I think it's wrong to foist your beliefs on others. Besides, it's all in the walk, not the talk.

If someone had written FU in my house, somebody would hear about it, despite the fact that I utter than phrase from time to time. Doesn't mean some tool can write it with impunity in my house.

    Bookmark   January 20, 2014 at 6:36PM
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It is unacceptable. How dare he proselytize where it is not invited or wanted, and deface your property. That is a spooky and sick thing for an installer to do and his management needs to know about it.

    Bookmark   January 20, 2014 at 6:45PM
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While our bathroom was being tiled I was checking it out while the tiler was at lunch one day and I found a tile with a very controversial religious saying written on the back. I left it to show my husband but by the time he got home the tile was on the wall. The message was filled with hate for non-believers and cited several different religions which the tiler did not consider acceptable. I was freaked out and we fired the guy the next day. He was so devout (or wacko) he told us he pitied us for not sharing his beliefs. What was so scary is that he had no idea what our beliefs were.

    Bookmark   January 20, 2014 at 6:55PM
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I cannot believe how many negative thoughts on this topic are written here. Consider this a blessing in disguise. It will be covered up by the countertop. I think the individual who made the cabinets was blessing this work. Remember...the kitchen is the heart of the home. Regardless of your religion (and I'm Catholic), I find anyone who gives me a blessing, it is an honor.

Please let it go. Just know that your kitchen is blessed and loved. This was a sign from the universe. Now, pay it forward somehow, someway to someone else. It doesn't have to be religious...just do something wonderful to another human bei

    Bookmark   January 20, 2014 at 7:03PM
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I like to live by, "don't sweat the small things." & I agree with MrsHanson - let it go.

    Bookmark   January 20, 2014 at 7:32PM
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It wasn't creepy, or sick; I would call it unusual, but I think he simply took a liberty that he should not have to express his faith. Maybe he feels that it will serve as a sort of blessing to the house (rather like putting up a mezuzah). Or he feels that this is how he honors G-d through his work. I would guess that his intentions were good. Sure, say something if you feel like it (I probably would because he should not have done it) but don't wind it up into a big deal.

    Bookmark   January 20, 2014 at 7:48PM
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robo (z6a)

I asked my husband about it and he was like "who cares? cover it over with the countertop." I don't think he'd care no matter how many swear words there were scrawled on there -- of course at this point he's tempted to write plenty of swear words himself. I too would be on the ignore side. I'd consider it like a saying to ward off the evil eye or something and leave it at that.

    Bookmark   January 20, 2014 at 7:51PM
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I would find it creepy. I am a practicing catholic and know that if this message was about another religious deity blessing you, folks may not be as gracious. It think it is intrusive for someone to sign your property with their beliefs no matter what it is. I am not sure who I would speak to but I would want the piece replaced or repaired to remove the comment.
Best of luck!!

    Bookmark   January 20, 2014 at 7:56PM
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I think it is very unprofessional and the parties involved should be told. It wouldn't be any different had he made a political statement. It could cost them future business and they should be made aware of that. Very inappropriate in the workplace.

    Bookmark   January 20, 2014 at 9:32PM
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robo (z6a)

I'm not religious at all so wouldn't matter to me what religion it came from.

    Bookmark   January 20, 2014 at 9:36PM
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it is your property that was written on in your home.

some people that work in your home are craftspeople, some are high school dropouts that could not do anything other than menial labor. there are different levels of graffiti, but all graffiti is vandalism.

if a carpenter views him/herself as a professional, they should not scrawl anything other than what is needed technically, to get the job done.

It takes willful pride to vandalize someone else's property, not pious humility. If you ask "what would Jesus do?" I doubt he would be scrawling on someone else's property, and I doubt he would have wanted someone to do this in his name. There are right wing zealots who seem to think otherwise.

    Bookmark   January 20, 2014 at 10:07PM
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Yeah, I doubt Jesus would (but he did make a mess in the Temple, don't forget); here we are talking about a human who may just not have thought about it beyond what he feels he could/should do to honor his beliefs. As people are prone to do, whether right wing or left wing.

Many faith traditions speak of honoring their god(s) with the work of the hands. I myself take that to mean doing the best job I am capable of; perhaps he thinks that means making some kind of additional statement. "Willful pride" is a harsh assumption.

If it was about some deity other than mine, I would just laugh and remove or cover it, since to me it is not a deity. But as I said, I would mention it because he should not have done it.

    Bookmark   January 21, 2014 at 2:39PM
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It is inappropriate for anyone to make an uninvited statement on your cabinetry. If they wanted to do so, they could have written it on a piece of paper and taped it there for you to see. However, they chose to put it directly on the cabinetry, in writing. That is just too preachy for me, but I'm an atheist Jew, so I'm not inclined to look favorably upon blessings.

I would let the owner of the company know. Even if it doesn't bother you that much, if I were the owner, I would want to know that one of my employees was representing my company in such a fashion. Then the owner had the knowledge to do whatever they want with it.

    Bookmark   January 21, 2014 at 2:50PM
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Carrie B

As far as I'm concerned, that is graffiti, vandalism & defacement of property all wrapped into one.

The content of the message is absolutely irrelevant, be it a religious blessing, a reminder to walk the dog, a statement such as "have a nice day" or anything else.

Somebody wrote on your personal property, in your own home, presumably while they were being paid by you to work. That's reprehensible, irresponsible and worse.

    Bookmark   January 21, 2014 at 2:58PM
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It's unprofessional to write anything, so I'd mention it to the cabinet company. Don't be surprised if he's not surprised. After the third tradesman came in and said they knew the owner of the cabinet company and my GC from church, I caught on that it was a good ol' choirboy network.

    Bookmark   January 21, 2014 at 3:11PM
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I think initially I be put off but then after a while I would just be like " whatever"...your counters are going over it so it will be gone soon...
I would not call anybody because really what are they going to do unless u press charges& do u really want to get into all that?? If u call the company they could tell u they will "say" something to him., if that makes u feel better then go for it. I would not do anything more than that....

    Bookmark   January 21, 2014 at 3:46PM
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It's vandalism.

I'd report it to the person's superior and insist they come out to make it right in whichever way you see fit: sanding it off, painting over it, etc.

    Bookmark   January 21, 2014 at 3:49PM
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Thanks for all the perspective.

I think the installer that did this is a decent enough person (from my limited contact) and I have gotten to know him over the last month in the capacity of home owner/installer as he did all bathrooms, closets, mudroom, pantry, laundry, and kitchen.

I have posed this to a few different parties/forums and I am surprised by how many people think I am making too much of a big deal about this, even when I have said nothing except to pose "what would you do" as I have done here. The opinion seems to be that if I do want to make a big deal out of this, or take offence, then I am the one with doing something wrong or being prude.

I am bothered by the total disregard for my property. As it happens, this was revealed when we had guests invited to see the progress of our home. It embarrassed me and, in fact, completely put off our friends who are shopping around for a kitchen company. I am fairly certain that if the cabinet company knew that messages were being attached to their product, they would not be pleased. I am also fairly certain he would lose his relationship with this company.

I don't want to see that happen, but at the same time, I think something needs to be said.

Still thinking.


    Bookmark   January 21, 2014 at 4:06PM
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I would say something...after the job is done. Since it's not "workmanship" that's impacting the quality of the kitchen, there's nothing to be gained from saying something right now. It could just create drama. After the job is complete though, just simply say that you didn't appreciate the sentiment, and then point out that your friends were also put off and it negatively impacted their view of the company - potential lost future revenue speaks louder than hurt feelings.

    Bookmark   January 21, 2014 at 4:26PM
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Dianamc75, yes, how awkward for you to find it when guests were present. But that might be a way to explain to the installer how inappropriate it was for him to do. You could indicate that, while you understand the sentiment, some homeowners might consider it off-putting. Then, you may share, for example, that you had guests over who happened to see it, and it left a negative impression about the kitchen company to the point where they may not pursue business with the kitchen company.

That's one option, if you're not comfortable with going directly to the kitchen company.

Personally, in my home, this wouldn't go away for me once the counters were installed. I'd have the image in my mind each time I looked at the countertops in the location where it was inscribed. I would erase/paint over/remove the inscription myself, and in its place, put my own words for my kitchen, whether religious or humorous, or what have you, in a gesture of reclaiming my kitchen!

    Bookmark   January 21, 2014 at 4:29PM
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I'm with Mrs. Hansen.

I also suspect if it weren't a Christian message -- that is, if it read "made by John Smith" -- no one would be saying anything.

    Bookmark   January 21, 2014 at 4:29PM
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The only thing written on the wood in my remodel, other than measurements, arrows, and cut marks, is a drawing of a heart by my DH with RB + SS = LOVE, and that message is currently covered up by the backsplash.

But to be serious, if this were done in my house, I'd report it to the CG or whoever the boss is. My carpenter used to always say "have a blessed day" to me when he left for the day. I thought that was sweet and nice. But he was saying it to me personally, to my face. If he had scrawled "have a blessed day" on some wood, I would have been upset by that, even though it's the same message. Scrawling it seems pretty much the same as any other kind of vandalism. At the very least it's unprofessional.

It seems sort of out-there, and perhaps the person is having some problems, relationships problems, dependancy problems or something else going on that might not have anything to do with religion or your remodeling job.

I feel that you should report it to the GC or boss of the installation company. The boss can decide whether to discuss it with the installer. If this has been reported before, or it is reported in the future, then the boss probably would want to know and follow up on it. All you're doing is giving the information.

You can be very diplomatic about it, just let the GC know what occurred and then you don't have to think about it anymore.

Good luck with your remodeling job.

    Bookmark   January 21, 2014 at 5:17PM
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It's interesting that the OP feels that the majority opinion "seems to be that if I do want to make a big deal out of this, or take offence, then I am the one with doing something wrong or being prude" when in fact, there are exactly 3 people on this thread who are of that opinion. They all, oddly enough - or perhaps, not so oddly ;) have a user name that begins with "Mrs." Clearly, you're in the wrong for even posing the question with the Mrs. set. The overwhelming majority feel that it's inappropriate at best and vandalism at worst.

My opinion is of the latter. I get annoyed when the tiler used red sharpie to mark the tile and we could see a hint of the red in my marble tile. I can't imagine how angry I'd be at proselytizing on my brand new cabinets.

    Bookmark   January 21, 2014 at 6:16PM
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I don't think it's appropriate, but OTOH, it's in good spirit. I would mention it AFTER the kitchen is done, simply because of obviously offended people are (judging by this thread) and the fact your guests were "put off".

I also think there is too much hooha over this. Put the counter on it.

I am not being snotty when I pray (chose that on purpose) that this is the worst dilemma you come across in a venture fraught with endless possibilities for something to go wrong.

BTW. I consider myself a faithful person, but I am not a religious person. Just throwing that in there....

    Bookmark   January 21, 2014 at 6:26PM
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I would mention it. Just because the GC should know someone on the worksite is doodling loaves of bread and writing notes when he should be focusing on getting the job done.

    Bookmark   January 21, 2014 at 6:53PM
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lov_mkitchenIOWA zone 6b

Is it possible he recently became a believer? Survived an accident? Dodged a bullet? Is going through chemo or some other treatment? He likes you and wishes good things for you/your house? Christians are supposed to spread the Good News. Maybe that's all he was doing. It's a little bit like wishing everybody Merry Christmas rather than happy holidays. The happy holidays phrase REALLY offends me. If you don't celebrate Christmas, tell me happy new year.

    Bookmark   January 21, 2014 at 7:18PM
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I'd be unhappy. This is your kitchen, not a proselytizing opportunity. Of course the guy knew you'd see it as well as any one else in there before the counters went down. There is generally a time gap between one and the other, sometimes a long one. Maybe it gives him a religious thrill to know he was crusading for the lord or whatever he thought he was doing. Maybe he gets off "knowing" that his messages are snugged up under countertops all over town. Whatever. It's not his kitchen. It's not appropriate. I would not consider it a benign action. It's a power trip disguised as "sharing" or "giving." I'd want this "message" removed the same as removing "Go Tigers!" from the Titans' HS campus. It's not that "Go Tigers!" is bad, it's just scrawled in the wrong place. It's inappropriate, and no amount of pretend humility and "good intentions" make it OK.

    Bookmark   January 21, 2014 at 8:58PM
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marthastoo, I like your powers of observation!!! Good catch. I wish I had caught the three Missuses who are of one mind.

I am uncomfortable having theological discussions in the Kitchens forum. It can't end well. People have left the place over matters far more mundane.

    Bookmark   January 21, 2014 at 9:05PM
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It's a power trip disguised as "sharing" or "giving."

It was not his kitchen, so his personal commentary is inappropriate. I would ask the company responsible for installation to remove the inappropriate graffiti.

I would act the same way if I found someone penning quotes from Christopher Hitchens on my property.

    Bookmark   January 21, 2014 at 9:24PM
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"I have posed this to a few different parties/forums and I am surprised by how many people think I am making too much of a big deal about this, even when I have said nothing except to pose "what would you do" as I have done here. The opinion seems to be that if I do want to make a big deal out of this, or take offence, then I am the one with doing something wrong or being prude."

Had this guy been a Satanist, I doubt they'd be so forgiving.

    Bookmark   January 21, 2014 at 10:31PM
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I'm Jewish. Keep a kosher kitchen. My carpenter was a very religious Christian and respected my beliefs. Were he to have written something like that on a plywood top that was going to be covered by a countertop, I probably would feel blessed--not by Jesus, but by his hope that the kitchen would be a place of happy meals and that our family would be blessed. I supposed it is an inappropriate thing to do, but it is a kind thought.

    Bookmark   January 21, 2014 at 10:51PM
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"Jesus is the eternal bread of life" doesn't sound like a blessing. It's more of a "Come to Jesus" message.

    Bookmark   January 21, 2014 at 10:59PM
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I would politely mention it to my GC. Regardless of the sentiment, cabinets are not the place to be leaving messages (except if the homeowner chooses to do so). I believe my GC would be surprised and take steps to have the text removed.

    Bookmark   January 21, 2014 at 11:01PM
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The religious message would annoy me enough to stand there while the cabinetmaker sands it off. The fact the someone is so single minded about any subject enough to hide the obsession on their handwork, kinda smacks of whack-o. Whomever wrote knew not to, or they wouldn't have placed it were it would be forever hidden. If you complain, will they pick up the nearest hammer and attack you infidel soul? Its not a blessing to me, it's underhanded. Its pushing their way in, wether you want it or not.

    Bookmark   January 22, 2014 at 1:03AM
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I agree with mayflowers: "Jesus is the eternal bread of life" doesn't sound like a blessing. It's more of a "Come to Jesus" message.

Then again I no longer consider myself Christian. I am shocked so many consider it a goodwill gesture. I feel it is a disrespectful act of vandalism. I would say something to the "artist" and possibly the GC. I also don't think I'd want the "come to Jesus" sentiment underneath my countertop.

    Bookmark   January 22, 2014 at 2:26AM
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I would be bothered and agree it is disregard for personal property. Would take photos, remove or cover it up, and ask for a "damage to property" credit when it came time to pay the final bill.

Ironically, I found it funny when my plumber made a written comment (on the bathroom subfloor) to the carpenters about "the floors need to be level before (he could) install the tub." I mentioned it to him and he was profusely apologetic. I considered it necessary work related communication and kind of like that it is there. It reflects the real people who built the house.

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    Bookmark   January 22, 2014 at 2:52AM
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I'm of the same opinion as CEFreeman. For something that's going to covered over very quickly, this is "much to do about nothing." My statement stands, including references to other deities. I would then say something to the owner in passing at the end of the project.

    Bookmark   January 22, 2014 at 4:27AM
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These people who come into our homes and think they can do whatever they want really bothers me.

I agree that it has a "come to Jesus" tone, not one of a blessing, and was wondering if this is a fairly expensive kitchen or house and the remark was made as somewhat of a values judgment for your benefit. That he feels he needs to save (people like) you.

Nevertheless what his point was, it is completely out of line, intrusive behavior and very disrespectful of personal property and others to be taking liberties like that in another person's home. It doesn't matter what the content.

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    Bookmark   January 22, 2014 at 7:44AM
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For those who think this is no big deal, a blessing, or spreading the Good News as one is supposed to, how would you feel if the message read "Allah is the eternal bread of life. Allah akbar." Is that okay?

    Bookmark   January 22, 2014 at 12:01PM
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marthastoo: the OP said she posed the question to several different forums. The proportion of people here who said "No big deal" is not necessarily reflective of the proportion of people she queried overall.

It doesn't matter whether his message was a blessing or an attempt at conversion, it's still vandalism.

What if he had written "Heil Hitler!" or drawn a swastika? Would that be okay since it's going to be covered up?

The message doesn't matter. What matters is he's writing on someone else's property.

    Bookmark   January 22, 2014 at 12:38PM
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I am not religious- I would let it go. If anything, I would speak to him individually.

When we pulled off 1970's wall panels in a previous house, we found naked ladies sprayed on the wall board. I didn't take offense although I thought it was tacky to say the least.

    Bookmark   January 22, 2014 at 1:52PM
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A few issues:
1. Writing on someone else's property (to be covered up)
2. Writing a religious sentiment (to be permanent but hidden)
3. Writing as a way of proselytizing or blessing

I personally am in the camp that it matters what was written. A note to a colleague about the installation would not bother me. This phrase and the fact that it is hidden is kind of creepy and sounds like proselytizing rather than a genuine blessing, i.e.: "Then Jesus declared, "I am the bread of life. Whoever comes to me will never go hungry, and whoever believes in me will never be thirsty."
First, by equating Himself with bread, Jesus is saying he is essential for life. Second, the life Jesus is referring to is not physical life, but eternal life.

I wonder how he would react if you blessed him with something like "Allah Akbar."

But to answer your question:
How do you feel if it stays under your counter tops? Was it only embarrassing because your friends saw it?

I personally would not report him to the cabinet company. However, I would say to him that you saw the inscription and you'd like to have it removed and change it to something that you want, e.g. initials of your family members, a generic blessing, or whatever.

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    Bookmark   January 22, 2014 at 4:03PM
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I'm not going to comment on the exact issue.

What is surprising to me is how many of you have said that you found writing or pictures hidden under drywall and such. If we don't already have enough to worry about when hiring contractors and tradespersons, now we have to worry about them leaving unappreciated messages behind. With all the stories lately about workers smoking in homes, leaving garbage between walls, etc. it like you have to be there 24/7 to supervise anyone you hire. So glad DH is able to DIY 95% of everything.

    Bookmark   January 22, 2014 at 4:56PM
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beachlily z9a

After taking picture, I would be the one using sandpaper. Then complaining to management.

    Bookmark   January 22, 2014 at 5:35PM
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I am not a believer (the closest I come to religion is chanting "om" at yoga) but I would let the message stay for the sake of "kitchen archaeology".

First, it gives you a great kitchen story.

Second, it shows that your carpenter dedicated his work to a higher power and therefore takes his job seriously. The fact that he put it in a place that isn't supposed to be seen means that he is not trying to show off or proselytize. He saw it as a gesture of friendship and did it because he was comfortable with you. Personally, I would have him come back and sign or initial his message for posterity (well, until the next demo). It would be fun for future owners to find his secret message and bread drawing.

In our 1930s townhouse in Queen NY we were repairing a bannister and it had to be removed. Under the newel post were two signatures and a 1939 penny. When I did my kitchen in Tampa, I had the two installers hop up on the counter and sign and date the top of the corner cabinet. It not unusual for workmen to tag their work.

    Bookmark   January 22, 2014 at 7:19PM
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robo (z6a)

I was thinking similarly -- I'm like 100% atheist, and maybe it's just from living and working in slightly older homes (60-150 years old), but there are all kinds of surprises in the walls and under the floors. It's fun when you find things that are personal when you take off the finishes. Or, a signature, dedication or personal note behind a drawer in a handmade piece of furniture.

My contractor is a trusted professional but at the end of the day, I figure under the finishes is his domain and over them is mine. There's spraypaint, marker, pencil and what have you all over the shell of my kitchen right now. Doesn't affect me a bit after the finishes go up.

Now if it were an expression of hatred, I could understand feeling bad every time one were reminded of it.This didn't strike me in that way. And for me, if it weren't ill-meant, it wouldn't matter if it were Muslim, Sikh, Christian, Jewish or Pastafarian -- it's all the same as far as I'm concerned.

This post was edited by robotropolis on Wed, Jan 22, 14 at 19:59

    Bookmark   January 22, 2014 at 7:47PM
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It's interesting to read the different perspectives.

I think it depends on how you feel about this. The responses so far should have validated your finding it "strange." On the other hand, there's nothing wrong with those who think it's ok or not a big deal.

I probably couldn't keep quiet and would mention it to him. I'd want to know what the intention was.

    Bookmark   January 22, 2014 at 9:18PM
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Absolutely nothing. I would move on and save my energy for when you will need it. If this is the only thing you have to consume your time on this project, you are luckier than most posters on this form. I would ignore it.

    Bookmark   January 22, 2014 at 9:23PM
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jerzygirl! As a 35 year yoga teacher, I'm here to remind 'ya that yoga is not in any way, shape or form, a religion or faith. "Om" is representative of the first sound made in the universe after creation. In Sanskrit, it also holds all the tongue, teeth and lip positions of every single word. IOW, your mouth movements to make "Om."

Sorry. Too many fundamentalists freak about yoga being anti-Christian or something that would take someone away from their faith by who knows what. I think it's important to (to me, as a practitioner) put this out there. Yoga stills the body in preparation for meditation, to be open to the God/Universe/Spirit within. Monotheistic, vs. Dualistic.

Sorry to hijack this thread. It's a point with me that too many people i.e. new teachers, don't know.

To return to topic:
Under my drywall I have OM symbols. I have Wiccan mother images, I have crosses, stars of all kinds, aphorisms from Oscar Wilde, Gandhi, Christ, Buddha, friends, the Washington Post, etc. But, I must add, I put them there. Who knows what my ex-POC put under the drywall! LOL!

    Bookmark   January 26, 2014 at 9:17AM
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I've taped cardboard templates to commercial countertop installations with "This is not your workbench." written in large black magic marker and I don't care who doesn't like it because I know who's going to be expected to come back out and fix the scratches for free.

"When we pulled off 1970's wall panels in a previous house, we found naked ladies sprayed on the wall board. I didn't take offense although I thought it was tacky to say the least."

Naked ladies offensive? Impossible.

    Bookmark   January 26, 2014 at 10:19AM
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I guess possibly the best way for you to make your decision is what is best for you personally. This is obviously one of those topics that causes people to have strong opinions one way or the other.

It is definite that it is your property and it should not have been done. On the same token, it could be on your dry-wall, built-ins that you happened to not even see, or the back of a tile. I'm not making light of this, but I suspect this happens more than "we" are aware.

I would also feel that it was meant as a blessing & not look into studying the words too much.

I would ask yourself, is this going to bother me in the future. Is having it permanently covered up still going to cause me discontentment, hostility or anger. Are you going to feel some sort of bad karma having it there? If so, then have someone come in and have it removed.

I would also advise to be very careful if you "tell-on" the person who did the writing on your cabinets. Please be aware that he may get fired and lose his and his families source of income. What he did was wrong, but I would not be able to sleep at night knowing he lost his job (probably over doing something he felt was a blessing). I would rather see the FU writers get canned once. So, if you decide you can not live with it there, please move forward. If you just want him to know that others (in the future) might not be as "tolerant or nice about his writings." Is it possible you could just contact him & give him the warning, rather than have him possibly get fired.

This will nonetheless give you a story to talk about for many years. I wish you the best with your build and hope you enjoy your new home.

    Bookmark   January 26, 2014 at 2:55PM
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Power muffin, my "discovery" should have been in your house: under the powder room wallpaper, facing the commode, was a cowboy peeking through the slats of a saloon door. I'd gone to high school with the kids that lived in the house, and judging from the initials and drawing style I think the artist was also our classmate, and a friend of mine back then. We painted right over it. Quickly! (Elsewhere under wallpaper, we found a charming cafe scene above the chair rail in the kitchen and cheery birds in the hall bath.)

To the op, if I were offended I would bring it up with the workman. If I were not offended, I would bring it up with the workman that other people might be. What did you do?

    Bookmark   January 26, 2014 at 3:32PM
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I would take it to mean my kitchen had been blessed. ;) Don't make more out of it than it is. Workmen are known for writing/drawing on walls and floors. As long as it's not a threatening or obscene message, I would ignore it. Why put someone's job on the line who may have a family? We all do stupid things.

    Bookmark   January 26, 2014 at 4:10PM
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I didn't end up saying anything. It was covered up on Friday. Too many other things to think about at this point.

    Bookmark   January 26, 2014 at 5:16PM
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Amen to that!


    Bookmark   January 26, 2014 at 8:11PM
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