How often do you phone your married sons?
I can't offer my friend an opinion because my own kids aren't married. She is wondering how often mothers phone their married sons to 'chat.' She says she phones all her children nightly to catch them up on whatever happened during her work day, and whatever happened with their father, siblings or nieces and nephews that day. Her calls last about 20 to 30 minutes each.
The DIL of her eldest son has always had a civil but rather aloof relationship with her for no apparent reason. The other son is newly married, but has no children yet. My friend so far has a good relationship with her new daughter-in-law, but her son mentioned that his wife recently commented "Gee, I think maybe when we have grown kids I'll just call them on a rotating schedule instead of talking to each child every night. I can't picture spending every single night on the phone for almost 2 hours." My friend doesn't know if this is a hint that her new DIL might be finding her nightly phone call a bit intrusive, or if she was just making a point that she personally couldn't talk for a long time on the phone each night. I told her I could probably get a great variety of opinions here and I'd let her know!