Spin-off of the teen girl/weight/eating thread . . .
I rarely talk to my DH about exercising, but tonight I was so excited about a deal I got, that I told him about it. (Fitness Blender's 8 Week Program-- got it for $8.50, since I had a coupon, woo hoo!)
Then this happened.
"Why don't you get the PX90? Then you'll have guys whistling at you."
I said: "What? No guy is going to whistle at me. I'm going to be 41 (tomorrow)."
"Yes, they will, if you're perfect."
"You're supposed to be the one to tell me I look perfect NO MATTER WHAT." ('Member how I think parents should say this? It applies, in my mind, to spouses, too.)
He told me he was joking and really was trying to "encourage" me.
We've been married 14 years, and never once has he said anything like this. (Well, he did tell me I looked my age once . . ., but oh well.) He doesn't compliment me very often in general, though. Just doesn't say anything. However, now that I've been working out, he has started commenting in the vein of, "You're getting there." He hasn't directly said that, but he will remark about my progress; never that I look good, which is fine . . .but the evaluations (unsolicited, mind you), I could do without.
Weird, he had a dream that I cheated on him recently and it really disturbed him. Sort of seems contradictory.
Sad. I've spent so long avoiding the word "perfect," and there it is again. I envy those of you who can let these things roll of your backs and want to learn how you do it . . .I'll meditate tonight and I bet that will help.