How much is too much? Kids and gifts
When I was growing up we got one "big" gift for Christmas, pajamas of course, and lots of little things.I remember as a kid leafing through the Sear's wish book until it was dog eared and dreaming of all the wonderful things in it...and no I never got everything. The joy was in the anticipation.
So my niece's list (she is 13) goes like this: guitar with lessons, Ipod video and accessories, new pottery barn bedding, Dooney & Bourke bag and bracelet, Fantasy perfume and more AND she will get EVERYTHING on her list.
My sister can afford this....ahem...but, I feel like it is too much. (want to add my sister and I are really close and she's knows how I feel about this and I respect her to make her own choices for her children and we don't fight about it or anything - although sometimes I am sure she thinks I am cheap with my son since I buy all those gigantic plastic outdoor gyms and things at garage sales.) If you get everything - then (to me) it seems like nothing is really important or special.
I think of my son's 2 year b'day party where he just rifled through the packages never pausing to enjoy one thing - it was overwhelming. I put some of those gifts in the attic to take out on rainy days, and when I do he is so delighted and really enjoys every little toy (doesn't matter if it is $5 or $50).
It's just all so materialistic to me. Life is full of disappointments and I feel like if I can teach my son how to handle them I will be doing him a big service... and then when he does get something he really wants it will be that much more special. I am a little torn too - it's not like I don't want him to have everything (again he is young - not a teenager with a voice yet!).
Am I making sense? Do I sound like an old bitty? I was wondering how other people felt about this. Maggie