Adult-ish Child, First Job and Apartment
Our situation has sort of resolved itself, but I'm curious how you all have dealt with this.
Our DD, 22, graduated in May with a degree in Psychology and Justice Studies, minors in Forensics and Women's studies. All four years she was a peer rape crisis counselor on campus. She recently applied for and got a job working as a Domestic Violence and Rape Crisis advocate about two hours from home in a kind of sketchy area. As you can guess, the salary isn't big.
We have been looking at apartments in the area. She really wants to live on her own, without roommates. The apartments in her price range were in some really bad areas. We could afford to help her out with the rent and/or utilities to get her into a better area.
One friend said that if the job can't put her into a decent place to live, she shouldn't take it.
Another said that she should live in the scary place and learn to protect herself.
Someone else said "tough luck" get a roommate.
We ended up looking in a higher price range, finding a great place with an owner who lives above who is super nice. She dropped the rent $150 so DD could afford it. (we may still have to help a little with utilities). I'm so relieved..I can do without a few things to know that she at least has a safe place to land after what will probably be a long tough day.
What do you all think? Am I over protecting? Too helicopter? I am so relieved tonight that this little part is over. Now we have to get her moved up there,find some furniture, and help her get ready to start July 14th.