Does a wedding HAVE to be stressful??????
ARGH. SO and I have been together for over nine years...we got engaged a year ago, and are planning a wedding for next May. HOWEVER - we are planning on getting married in Europe. This has ALWAYS been our desire, for years...and it has been our desire to keep it simple, with immediate family and that's about it (my best friend is the lone exception).
My 'immediate' family boils down to my mom, my aunt (her sister) and my first cousin, who will be walking me down the aisle. Including his GF, and my BF, we're at five. SO's side...not so simple. His brother and his wife, their newborn, his parents, his sister, her husband and their four kids, and his aunt. Gives us 12.
So this weekend, speaking with my side and they are very upset that I do not want to invite my mom/aunts' first cousins - two sisters, whom they are very close to. I do appreciate the fact that they are very close, but it turns into the old 'if I invite one, I have to invite the whole family' - which becomes another ten people. My aunt even offered to pay for them, which was a nice gesture, but it's not about that (well not all about that) - I just don't want to deal with a ton of people. It's already turned into over 20 people, and I feel that's already too much too...
I realize our side of the family is small, but that doesn't mean we have to 'even out' the sides - which I'm afraid my mom wants to do. It's not my fault she didn't have more kids! My mother even made a comment to the effect of 'well, then just go with his family then and we'll stay here'. I told her that she better watch what she says, or no one will come and we'll just go ourselves and that will be the end of it.
Background - we are not getting any money from anyone for this, in fact, we are going to contribute to either airfare or hotel for most everyone...plus, we will be having a large party for friends/relatives a month after we return, so that everyone can celebrate.
Soooo....thanks for letting me vent. :-) Any words of advice??? Geez...we're 33 and 40 respectively...you'd figure we'd be beyond the family politics!!!