Total Birthday Bummer- WWYD?
Either commiserate and offer sympathy or give me a virtual slap upside my ungrateful head if you feel it's warranted. Here goes. ..
I just celebrated my big 5-0 and I use the term 'celebrated' loosely. DH told me 'happy birthday' that morning but treated it as a total non-event. No gift, no dinner out. No nothing. Nada. I am flummoxed.
He has had a card and presents for every other birthday. Dinner- well, long ago he told me if I wanted to be taken out to dinner on my birthday I shouldn't have been born during baseball pre-season! I took that in good humor, the way it was intended, but this year I see very little humor in this situation.
In our circle of friends, most of the men have turned 50, and many of the women are celebrating their half-century marks this year. It's been a big deal all around- most host a happy hour come-and-go or dinner for their spouses, several have sent their better halves(?) for getaway weekends or spa retreats and there is always a lot of girl-talk about "What did you get?" Great! So how do I answer THAT?
On DH's Big One, I gave him a surprise party and his gift was a photo safari - something he has always wanted to do. He was flattered to be the center of attention and ecstatic about the safari- and I was so pleased to be able to do it for him. In no way do I expect the same from him, but I'm shocked that he totally ignored it. Also, we still have a child at home and I think ignoring a spouses's life event is a terrible example to set.
I have a very thick hide and do not get my feelings hurt easily, but I am devestated. I have not spoken to him about it yet because I need to calm down. I have a self-imposed rule about speaking when I'm upset because I have a hot temper and a sharp debater's tongue that will take off on its own otherwise.
It's been a couple of weeks and I'm still very very sad. Am I making a mountain out of a molehill?