It takes 9 positives to correct a negative
I have come to the painful realization this year, now that my youngest is about to graduate HS, that I have not properly "housebroken" him. In my zeal to correct this, I have allowed all of my waking comments to be directives:
"Chris-to-pher,. . . followed by an accusation/command," as in, "Christopher, I asked you to clean the catpan and take out the trash yesterday, Do it!"
It has somewhat begun to take effect. The only problem is, there is so much wonderful and good to talk about that we've missed in the process - and my son flinches when I say his name.
So, this little bit of advice comes to mind - which means I've got a lot of catching up to do!
"It takes nine positive statements to balance the effects of one negative one."