Will I regret not having kids?
I have thought long and hard about posting this here, because I know there are many folks who will be very passionate about this subject, and I really don't want to start a war of sorts. But I'm looking for advice, on any end of the spectrum...
I am 33, and will be getting married next May. SO is 40. We pretty much have always agreed to not have kids...while in theory we thought it would be 'great', we love our lifestyle and did not want to change anything. SO is a photojournalist, and therefore travels quite a bit. We also travel together a lot as well...we love going away and have spent quite a bit of time seeing other parts of the world.
We have a dog, whom we adore and treat like our child, and there are many times when he prevents us from doing things we would like - ie, going away for longer periods of time, spending a long weekend away and not worrying, etc. He's fairly large, so it's hard to rely on my mom to watch him for short periods of time (he does go to a kennel for longer trips, but it's expensive and traumatic for him). We feel that this gives us a little taste of what it would be like to have kids (well, at least the inconveniences and changes in some of our lifestyle).
We do like kids - SO has four nieces and nephews and I have two...we enjoy spending time with them, so it's not a 'we hate kids' sort of thing. I love my job, but I am not totally engrossed in my career. But we really enjoy being able to pick up and go, and I guess that's really hard to do with kids.
I also have issues with bringing kids into this crazy world of ours - a part of it is my paranoid personality, but a part of it is also rational, I feel - between kids killing other kids in schools, and terrorists bombing innocent people, and our environment slowly dying due to our own stupidity, etc....
So my question is this - will I regret not having kids in 20 years?? I know I won't regret it right now, and I certainly do not want to have children just for the sake of having them. I know there are many sacrifices to make, but of course you get wonderful things in return...I also am aware of the huge financial change in having kids, and am worried about that as well.
Just curious to hear your thoughts...thanks! Lucy