christmas card help

tiad57December 14, 2006

My brother lost his wife of 18years 2 weeks ago to a car accident. My family was also very close to her I am finding it very difficult to write christmas cards as it is suppose to be a happy time of year but how can one be happy when this happens. I have not a clue what to write as I want to wish them a merry christmas and also let them know I also miss her and it is a sad time. Is there a website that has any sort of sayings that could help or could anyone of you offer some advice.

Thank you for any help.

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Tiad, I am sorry for you loss. It makes the Christmas season so difficult. Try this Hallmark site for something appropriate.

    Bookmark   December 16, 2006 at 12:20AM
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I'd take it on a card-by-card basis; some people should be told now, others you could probably tell later.

For certain people whom you are close to, you could just make a little "small talk," then share with them the fact that your dear sister-in-law passed away, "so it will be a sad Christmas, but we are also keeping the good memories close at heart. Very best wishes to you and yours for a wonderful holiday and good year ahead."

You have probably done the cards already, and I bet this is what you did.

So sorry for this tragic loss in your family. I know your SIL will be missed terribly this holiday season. Take care.

    Bookmark   December 16, 2006 at 10:23AM
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don't know about anyone else but i'm be hurt if someone passed and didn't know...

i had to send out that card last year to all my mother's friends...

    Bookmark   December 17, 2006 at 7:25PM
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Our boy and granddaughter were killed in the summer, and I made cards on the computer that read: "(Our names) regret to inform you of the untimely deaths of our son (name) and granddaughter (name), June 17, 2003 in City, State." I sent them that summer to everyone out of town on our Christmas list so that they'd find out without my having to call or write the sad news over and over again. I got many very kind notes and phone calls and most people seemed appreciative of my notifying them. That Christmas, we sent out cards and just signed our names. We still do that. We've had good news to share since then, new grandbabies most importantly, but I can't write a cheery letter and leave out 2 very cherished people who are no longer with us and whose absence we feel so deeply, especially at the holidays.

    Bookmark   December 21, 2006 at 10:23AM
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Dear Tiad,
In June 2005, my 18 yr. old daughter & her boyfriend were killed in an auto accident. Last Christmas I couldn't muster the strength to send cards. This year I did get them out. This is what I did. I printed out a poem in memory of Erica, and her birth & death dates. I put stickers of things she loved on them, put them in with the card, then hand wrote an apology of why everyone didn't get cards last year. For those who want to know more, I figure they'll write or call. Do what you feel up to, and don't sweat the small stuff. Life is too short to worry about the little things. Let us know how you're doing.
Emma in SC

    Bookmark   December 22, 2006 at 10:54AM
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I'm just now able seeing this. I hope you were able to find the words to write on your Christmas cards.

    Bookmark   December 27, 2006 at 9:55PM
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Thanks for your help everyone. Through tears and a huge lump in my throat I managed to write that card.

    Bookmark   December 31, 2006 at 12:36AM
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