FIL recently diagnosed with kidney failure--kidneys operating at 10 percent. After MONTHS of going to his doctor, complaining of joint pain, ankle swelling, falling asleep at all times, and being cold--he lives in s. MN, and the temps have been HOT there lately, he dresses in a t-shirt, long sleeve shirt, and puts on a jacket when he goes outside!! Finally, his dr sends him to nephrologist, and he gets the bad news. Surgery today to install the ports for hemodialysis. Is this normal to diagnose so late in the game? Are we over-reacting to be upset at late diagnosis? Any suggestions/help would be appreciated!