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Cari, I'm so sorry to hear what's been happening. I think it would help you to talk with an experienced domestic abuse counselor. There are so many kinds of abuse, and each has many facets; the subject involves a lot more than husbands beating wives. I'll link you to the National Domestic Violence Hotline website below. Or call their national hotline
to talk and/or get information about help in your community. These counselors are trained to help you tap into the strengths you already possess. Perhaps they can help your mother, too.
Best of luck to you,
Here is a link that might be useful: Hotline website