Ladies... grieving and hormones?
my mom passed away suddenly at 2:30 am July 30/08. She was 66 and we had only found out 11 day prior that she had lung cancer. The testing was not even all completed. 5 of those 11 days me and my family[dh and kids] were on a vacation.
Mom had been sick with bronchial issues and GERD most of winter and spring. She had smoked for 40 yrs, but had quit 10 yrs ago. She had numerous ailments and was gradually getting weaker before we realized something serious was going on. She lost alot of weight, but as she was over weight it wasn't noticable at first. She couldn't keep any meds and a lot of food down as everything just shot right back up. She could hardly walk across the room due to shortness of breath. She didn't want to see the dr, as everytime she was ill or depressed she thought she had cancer and was to scared to find out. This time she was right.
Dad took her to the Dr[walk in clinic] in June, and finally the dr took an chest xray. He said she had an infection and there "looked like there was a shadow" but he would show it to other drs. Make any appointment to see your family dr. She couldn't get on til 3 wks later. Our family dr had been away on vacation. When she finally got to see him he was VERY concerned. At first, he didn't even know WHY she was there! They didn't even red flag the results! From that single xray they could tell her right lung was partially collapsed and there was a growth.
With in a few days she had a CT scan and was told it was lung cancer. It didn't look good. No hope. She was so weak she didn't want treatments. On july 29th my dh and I and my dad took her to Wpg, 2hrs away, to see the specialist about a biopsy and he said she was extemely high risk and she probably wouldn't make it through. But, still, it was necessary. She signed the papers and we left to go home. I was so shook up, thinking that by the end of the next week she could be dead.
She died at home that night in my fathers frantic arms. We don't know exactly from what complication, and have to wait 4-6months for the autopsy results.
I too, didn't know I could hurt so much. This has been devestating for my family. My poor father is lost. My sister and I try and spend as much time as possible with him.
How. for my question... I find that when its about 1 wk before my period, and the week of it, I have a much more difficult time dealing with my loss. The other 2 wks are easier, but still I hurt. Do any of you other women find this to be true for you? Have you even thought of this? If not, watch this next month and see if it is true for you.
If it weren't for my faith in God and that I KNOW my mom is in Heaven and I WILL see her again, I don't think I could make it.