Silly question

deb---09August 21, 2009

Lost my Mom almost 5 months ago-still SO hard. Sometimes I can be doing fine, working, laughing, and then it hits me again, kind of like it is new all over again. Does anyone else feel sad knowing that their children will go through the the same feelings of continued sadness and grieving when we pass on? I know that sounds silly, but I worry about that. I don't want my children to be as sad as me. I have talked to my daughter and told her that I don't want her to have regrets and grieve for a long period of time. I had no idea how sad I would be when my Mom died, and how long it feels so fresh. Just a silly question. Thanks!

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not silly at all! I have have had the same thoughts after losing my sister. One idea I have planeed is to write notes to my children for after I am gone, I plan to do more than one per child with different topics, want to write about fun times, how proud I am of them, give reassurance etc... something they can open up after I am gone....I decided to do this because I would pay thousands of dollars this very moment to have a letter from my sister in my hand, one she knew I would read after she was gone.........don't know if it would help me miss her less, but at least feel closer...

    Bookmark   August 22, 2009 at 2:41PM
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