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franksmomaJuly 8, 2007

hi, i just found this site so i thought i would give it a try i lost my 29 year old son in dec 2006. we thought he was healthy, no health problems that we knew about. he was a big strong man. he had 3 kids, a wife and was moving into his new home the day he died. he just fell off the trailer that he was loading and he was gone. they said his heart just stopped and that he was gone before he hit the ground. i dont think i have even started to feel what has happened. it feels like i am in a daze and that its just not real. i feel like part of me died that day too and i'm just waiting to see the result of it. sorry to go on so long. dont even know why i'm here.

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mav63_2007

Franksmoma,
I lost my dear husband in November 2006 but I cannot imagine your loss of your son, please accept my condolences.
Have you looked for a breavement group in you local church or hospital? I did and they have been a great help.Yes, it takes a long time for reality to set in, it seems like a dream and you will wake up any minute but you don't. Most people need help to get through this and that is one of the reasons you sought out this forum. You will find that the people here are great listeners and you may get some advise you can use. In the mean time just know that you are in my prayers along with your family.
Mavis

    Bookmark   July 8, 2007 at 11:07PM
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alisande

Mavis's suggestion is good, and you might also see about one-on-one grief counseling. You lost your son so suddenly; the shock of it has to be dealt with as well as the loss itself.

I remember when the ice skater Ekataria Gordeeva's husband, Sergei Grinkov, died in the same way. We couldn't believe it. He was so strong, such a marvelous athlete, and there was no warning at all.

I hope you will stay close to your son's wife and (especially) his children.

Please don't apologize for the length of your post. Believe me, it was not long. And even if it were, that would be fine, too.

Susan

    Bookmark   July 9, 2007 at 9:38AM
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Janis_G

Franksmoma, my heart breaks for you.
It doesn't matter how the death of a child happens and
what age they are, a mother's heart is broken forever.

I lost my son when he was 11 and it still hurts today.

I'm glad you dropped in and hope you will find some
comfort from the mothers who have also lost their children.

You can survive this, it will be the hardest thing you've
ever done in your life. You have to just take it a day at a time.

Each of us handles grief in our own way and time frame.
My prayers are with you and your family.

Jan

    Bookmark   July 9, 2007 at 11:28AM
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