Lessening grieve-one experience
When I was in my 20's (some time ago) i received a call from my mother's boss at 9:00AM telling me she had not
shown up for work that day. I went to her bedroom, and
saw her sleeping all bundled up in blankets (it was March). I started to shake her, yelling, "Wake up - you're late for work!" Only she wasn't just late, or sleeping.
The grief was excrutiating. I could barely function. Every day for months I was exhausted and depressed and cried for hours on end. One day, around the 9th month since her passing, I was crying my eyes out as usual.
Then, an epiphany happened. Something or someone talked to me in a calm but stern tone of voice and warned me that my mother could not pass into a higher realm because my constant grieving was keeping her attached closer to the earth plane - and she must go soon to a higher realm. i know this sounds crazy, but that experience had a therapeutic affect. Shortly thereafter, very slowly, I started putting my life back together.