Bereavement tiredness

northernerApril 20, 2006

Does anyone have any tips on getting through Bereavement Tiredness?

My sister passed away earlier this month from bladder cancer after a short illness. She had not been in touch with me for a long time (estranged) so the first thing that I knew about it was when my cousin phoned to tell me she had passed away. She had asked my cousin not to tell me that she was ill.

I attended the funeral last week. My BIL is also ill. Doctors orginally thought he had Alzheimer's but now think the has Parkinson's. He is an assessment ward but is expected home in about a fortnight's time.

I have had a head cold since the funeral (getting over it). My main problem is tiredness. I am currently unemployed but intending to go self-employed later this year.

Thank you.

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Tiredness can mean a lot of things. Sometimes it is an apathy when you just don't feel like doing anything, nothing interests, you feel down. Sometimes tiredness occurs because you are phisically or emotionally exhausted, when there is too much happening in your life and you are using all your resources to cope. Sometimes tiredness (fatigue) is part of a somatic illness. Try to sort out your tiredness. Also, quickly "getting over" a loss sometimes means an effort to stuff it in, to avoid dealing with it.

    Bookmark   April 20, 2006 at 2:43PM
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Thank you Katerina, though I'm not sure that you understood me.

"Getting over it" referred to recovering from my head cold - nothing to do with the bereavement.

It's a physical tiredness - aching muscles. And not feeling refreshed when I wake up in the morning.

    Bookmark   April 20, 2006 at 7:16PM
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As Katerina said, it could be that you are using all your resources to cope with what's happening in your life just now.
Has this just occurred since your sister died? It's still awfully recent, it takes time to process all of this.

Try getting out and walking. Fresh air and exercise I found helped me cope when my mother died. If this continues for more than a few more weeks I'd see a doctor.

    Bookmark   April 21, 2006 at 8:36PM
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Thank you Sheila. Yes, it seems part of the reaction to my sister's passing. Starting to feel a bit better now, thank goodness, so my head cold probably wasn't helping either. Will be spending time out in the garden this spring, so that will probably help it.

    Bookmark   April 22, 2006 at 4:57AM
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