Too fast, too soon...
I am still numb with disbelief... My beloved wife passed away on St Patrick's day. She was 37.
That Monday, she was rushed to emergency with a fierce headache and vomiting. They tested for meningitis but that came back negative. They gave her morphine for the pain and it didn't help. Finally a CAT scan showed the aneurysm in her brain.
She had brain surgery the following morning and was in recovery for 6 hours before returning to a step-down room. The surgery went well, but the surgeon was watching for signs of brain spasms due to the bleeding.
The next morning, physical therapy had her up and walking! She was groggy and didn't remember much, but with gentle reminders, she vaguely recalled where she was. She could not yet remember names. When I left the room the signs were very encouraging.
That night, everything changed.
Her blood pressure began to fluctuate wildly. The staff tried to stabilize her so she could be brought down for another CAT scan. What they found was another rupture in her abdomen, seemingly completely unrelated to anything they had done so far. The only plausible explanation was that her blood pressure, artificially increased in order to counteract the increased pressure in her brain after surgery, caused a previously undiscovered defect in a blood vessel in her abdomen to burst. She was suffering massive internal bleeding. She was given unit after unit of blood, clotting factors, everything, and as fast as it was administered she would bleed it back out. It took a day to reverse the process but damage was already done. On top of that she had a massive stroke in one-third of the left side of her brain, the effects of which left her comatose. She eventually lost neurological function early in the morning on the 17th.
She was so strong. We had just moved 3 weeks prior to a new neighborhood, close to where she grew up. She was home again, so happy and with so much to look forward to with myself & our 4-year-old son. This all happened so unexpectedly, so sudden. She was too young.
It's not fair to take a mother away from her beloved child. She was the world to him, and he was the world to her. I would have swallowed this pill in an instant to save her, so she could be with her son who needs her.
He's such a caring child; when she was in emergency, he made it his job to wet a cloth under cold water and place it on Mommy's head to comfort her. When I called him on Saturday and explained how sick Mommy was, his first response was, "...Does Mommy need another cold towel for her head?" I couldn't stop crying, the love he showed for his Mommy just overwhelmed me.
We love her and miss her so much!