What do you say to the parents?
My brother who is 52 is suffering from cancer and is not expected to live long. I will be flying to the U.S. for the funeral but I am at a loss as to what to say to my parents. The main problem is my brother and I were never close. There was no animosity - but we had little in common. And what about my parents friends? They were not close to my brother either. What can they say? Of course, you listen and offer support, but isn't it awkward when the grieving parents cared so much while others didn't. Won't everything that anyone says sound false, or insincere? I'm afraid that anything less than an enthusiatic outpouring of love and praise will make matters worse and just serve to upset my parents and alienate them from the people who want to help.