Daughter's messy house...
My daughter and SIL have 2 beautiful children that my wife and I truly adore. (We love our daughter and SIL too!)
They live across the country and we don't get to see them very often.
Our biggest problem with their raising them is their messy, messy filthy house! 2 dogs and a cat don't help.
I know their hands are full but it's pitiful. As soon as you walk in the front door, the smell of dog knocks you out. When the dogs aren't outside, they live on the stairway going to the basement. It REEKS of dog feces and urine.
The good size living room is constantly strewn with toys, food and crumbs as well as dog hair. I mean, "watch where you're walking" type of clutter.
We are no clean freaks by any stretch of the imagination ...but...It drives me NUTS..! We have suggested that the kids,(all of them) go to the park and me and Nana will "straighten things up a little". Nope. Not having it. We try to play a game with the kids that involves picking up their toys and putting them away. No...we'll do that later. Those babies have more toys than a family of 12 should have...and no place to put them!
The bathrooms..? Oh my goodness! Lets just say that there are a few bacterial experiments growing on the tile behind the rust colored (once white) porcelin toilet. The tub..urp..lets not go there.
We WANT to help but everytime we suggest a house cleaning or lets knock out a few loads of laundry, they seem embarrassed or "you guys are on vacation".
I can't stay there anymore. We keep making excuses or meeting somewhere else for vacations instead of staying at their house.
How can we get the message to them, without hurting them or retaliating by denying us the kids, that their home is mess and a health hazard?
If someone were to call Health Services to inspect the home, I'm scared to death what would happen to the children.
Why are they so messy? Neither my daughter or SIL were raised in a dirty, messy environment. They say they have no time, but will play video games for hours after the kids are in bed. Is this a generational thing?