Husband's mom refuses to love our kids, please help
Hello....I married a Army officer last year, and made him the step-dad to my 2 toddlers. A year later, we had our own child. His mother hates me, and I can accept that. But she also refuses to let my kids come to her home, saying they get in the way, and she really should not be pressured into loving my kids, because she feels trapped. She even once told my 3 year old to NEVER call her grandma again. Please give me some advice!! Our baby is growing like a weed, and I want to include this woman in his life, but not if it means excluding my kids. Do I have the right to tell her if she wants to see the baby, she must realize that he is a package deal, and comes with 2 brothers? Or is it ok to tell her visitation with him stops until his brothers are included? My hubby won't help, so this is up to me. I would prefer not to let her see the baby until she realizes that she must never allow my boys to feel left out. Is this moral?