Well it summertime and that means we'll be making the long trip to visit the in-laws/grandparents.
I'm really not ready to deal with it-- and the week of vacation isn't until mid August and they live 1000 miles away.
my wife isn't thrilled either and they are her parents. they weren't very good parents. they aren't very good grand parents.
Our children are autistic, very high functioning and a delight to be with (IMHO). They are most likely not going to understand how much 'older' their grandparents have gotten this past year. Not that they are more frail, but that there drinking has increased and forms of dementia
are cropping up.(not alzheimers, just alchohol abuse)
We visit because the kids expect to-- its part of their routine. They understand about old people getting older and death. They understand about people with differing abilities--physical and mental. They don't understand meanness and dementia.
any suggestions or coping stratgies?