Grandma to be

Irishmama2March 18, 2013

I just found out 2 weeks ago that I am going to be a grandma. I am also going to turn 40 a month before my grandson is born. That's not the issue. The issue is I notified my Mom and siblings via phone and broke the news that my son is having a baby (he is 20). I decided that I should notify my SIL. We have a love/hate relationship. We haven't spoken in over 3 months and she claims she is always busy. So, I sent her a text asking how she was and I broke the news to her. She was kinda miffed that I sent this info to her via text. I told her that I would call but she said that she was busy driving with her son. I told her that she can call me when she gets home and she replied that she is driving with her god daughter now. I didn't reply to anything after that. My hubby got a call from his Mom the next morning. She told him how upset his sister was by receiving this news via text. I didn't mean to hurt her, just wanted to inform her. What do you think?

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I do think your SIL is being somewhat unreasonable. IMO it's not such sensitive news that only a voice call or in-person talk will do.
I'm also intrigued by her saying she was too busy driving to _talk_ to you but obviously not too busy to text you =:-O.
Your hubby's mother ideally should have told your SIL when SIL whined to her that really it was not her place to be in the middle of any real or imagined disagreement between the two of you, and it was unfair for MIL to drag your husband into it. Sounds like a somewhat dysfunctional dynamic going there.
In your shoes, I'd ignore it. I also wouldn't bother telling your SIL anything, since she is so willing to get her nose out of joint over nothing. If she wants to know what's going on, let her come to you.

    Bookmark   March 19, 2013 at 11:28AM
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"she was too busy driving to _talk_ to you but obviously not too busy to text you =:-O. "

I thought the same thing. She is texting!!! to tell the person that she cannot TALK while she is driving with a CHILD in the car.

But the other problem is that the OP continues to text her after that!! [head palm] - thus contributing to the unsafe situation

    Bookmark   June 4, 2013 at 10:56AM
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