What if anything would you say about DIL's housekeeping
I know, I know, this is none of my business, or is it? I have two grandchildren and I went over last night toget them because DIL wasnt' feeling well. I get physically sick when I walk into their bedroom, which they share. You can never even see the floor, there are socks (clean and dirty) mixedin the toy box, summer & winter clothes all piled together on the floor, drawers empty of clothes because theyre piled on the top of the dresser and in the floor, couldn't even begin to find matching clothes (which there are plenty, and most of which I've bought). The closet is so full of both clothes that fit and ones that don't, both summer and winter and all season, the hangers are hung to each other becausethe closet is so full. Now, I've offered (trying to be tactful) several times thta when she gets ready and has time to "do that room" to just call and I'll come get the kids so she can work in it. She laughs and says "I need to." I've gone over and helped separate and try to "organize" but it's a very touchy situation. She doesn't have to work but chooses to workpart time to "just get away from things" and doesn't clear $10.00 a week. My son works 12 hour shifts and I'm sorry to say, I didn't teach him to be a housekeeper, other than take care of his own things. I just feel that any mother who works or not should take at least some interest in the children's room, clothes, toys (another whole subject) because you can't even sit down and put a puzzle togehter because they're all lost, etc. I got so sick that I just had to leave and made a remark to my son thta something needed to be done in that room! He followed me to the car and said she threatened to leave every time he mentioned it needed attentin. He spent one sunday afternoon two weeks ago in there,trying to separate the clothes, etc., and had themin "stacks" but she obviously thought that was to "make her look bad" and let it all go, so now it's horrible!! I have bought a lot of the kids clothes and some they have outgrown wiht the price tag still on, and they wear the "same few things" all the time and look like orphans a lot. Please, please, I know this is long, but does anyone have any "workable" suggestions? My DIL and I seem to get along, or at least I think so, and she asks my opinion on a lot of things. Believe me, I am certainly not a good housekeeper myself, mine gets cluttered, etc, but I do clean and try to keep organized. When anyone mentions the word "go", she's the first one in line though and leaves that house without a care. Keeps saying she's going to "do" the kids room. Hasn't done anything to it since they were born. No decorating, no nothing. I am thoroughly disgusted this morning and thought about it all night. Sorry, I don't have time to correct mistakes here.