Advise and opinions needed.
Here is the scenario: I have a SIL that has a boyfriend. I do not get along well with my SIL but we are cordial and get together for holidays etc. She is my husbands only sister and they are not in touch with other family.
When we get together and talk about an event, or trip BF will say "I'll go" , or "I'll use your vacation house in February." He is a very nice man and good for my SIL but the part that is missing here is, we did not invite you and we did not ask you! The other part is that she is 10 years older than me and he is almost 20 years older.So, different energy levels.
My husband wants to plan a trip for myself and our two daughters to a place were BF would certainly want to go. My question to you is, how do you politely say we want this trip to be just for the four of us? Both DD are on their own and this will be the first time in a long time that we will share a vacation. Also one of my DD's does not get along with the SIL either.
I feel I put up with a lot in the sake of harmony, but I guess I am reaching my breaking point, always being concernied with how others feel.
What would you do?