Is it normal for your spouse to want to keep earnings a secret?
I recently remarried 1 1/2 years ago. I wish now that I would have insisted on better communication before hand. I recently closed my retail store and am working from home. (This was my decision, but I also felt pressured, by my husband who thought it was a waste of time.) I am having a hard time making enough money to pay my bills and keep up with what I need for myself and my two kids. I don't expect my husband to support them, but I do feel that it would be nice if we had a joint checking account at the very least.
He does not seem to want me to know how much he makes or see his pay stubs. (They stay in his brief case.)
I signed our tax forms, but he just thrust them at me with a pen and asked me to sign, so he could mail them off, and -they were gone. He keeps the copies also.
D travels alot, and I worry that if something ever happened to him, I wouldn't be able to pay all of our bills, since I have no access to any money that he has in his account.
I really feel this is not much of a "joint" marriage, and I'm having a hard time reconciling myself to it.
Am I being unfair, demanding or nosey? When discussing this he told me he didn't realize he had to discuss his personal affairs with me. I have asked him how much he makes and I am not going to do it again, because it seems to make him uncomfortable. I tried to point out though that it would be nice to at least know where we stand financially.
How do others handle this? I just don't feel that this is a normal relationship.