We're party poopers
DH and I moved this past year to a new town. To help us get connected to people with interests similar to our own, we joined the yacht club. I'm more comfortable socializing than my husband is, but neither of us drink alcohol, and he doesn't dance. The problem is that many of the social events the yacht club plans include drinking, something we didn't realize. The club's annual formal big dinner dance is coming up, the one when they take the photos that will go in next year's printed directory. How can we politely beg out without looking judegmental or just boring? We like talking about boats and sailing with others, but there's no way my DH will pay a bunch of money to dress up to sit around while everyone else gets buzzed, and has a fine time chatting, joking and dancing. I need some polite phrases or an explanation that doesn't beg more questions. Thanks for any advice.