Baby Shower- feeling weird about it
Is it just me, or is there a problem with the following baby shower?
I just found out that the mother to be will NOT attend the shower because she is not feeling well. Per her dr. she's to stay off her feet but is ok. She knew this several days ago. She lives out of state so she doesn't want to travel. However, she insisted that her mother throw her the get-together so she can get gifts. She said it just that way. Basically it will just be 15 family & ONE friend attending. She told her mother that "they do it that way nowadays"-without the guest of honor. Really? Maybe I'm old fashioned & don't understand the new etiquette rules. Whaaa...?
I realize that baby showers are all about the gifts, but knowing that she said that she just wants the gifts sounds crude.
Further, I feel like she's being disrespectful to everyone including her mother, the shower giver (currently going thru an ugly divorce with the baby's mother's dad, but her in-laws will be there). This will be a very uncomfortable situation, with no guest of honor. Many people will not be speaking to eachother at the tables, because of various acrimony in between & among family members-ouch.
Am I wrong in thinking that the shower should have been cancelled since the mother to be won't be there? Maybe it can be rescheduled after the baby is born & after the shower givers divorce? Am I too sensitive? I really don't want to attend.
Should I go to the restaurant early, leave the gift, eat quickly & leave so my stomach doesn't get upset?
I've never heard of a party without the guest of honor, who knew she wasn't going to be there way in advance, but wants the gifts, and is willing to subject both sides of the family to humiliation just so she gets presents.
Can anyone shed some light on this weird situation?