Advise now needed...engagement party
Our oldest daughter recently (last week) surprised us with the news that she is engaged. It was a BIG surprise since she has 2 more years of college and we do expect her to finish. Hopefully SHE expects to finish before getting married also. The prospective groom also has another year at LEAST before he graduates.
So.... we are just digesting this information when the question of an engagement party comes up. AAAGHHHH. Isn't this kind of rushing things? We have 2 in college right now and the last thing I want to think about is paying for a wedding and all of the hoopla that leads up to it.
What on earth is an engagement party? I have not heard of such a thing. Is this another of those "supposed to do's" that involve asking the invitees for gifts? I thought that was what bridal showers and weddings were for. I googled engagement parties and even found a website that spoke of engraved invitations for such an event. No wonder the wedding industry is known for being such a money making machine....everyone has their hand out for more money.
Any advise would be appreciated. Has anyone gone through this recently? Is an engagement party a necessity? Will we deprive our beautiful child of something that everyone else has, if we say NO to this party idea?