Second baby shower??
I have a situation and I need some season'd oponions here. LOL. my cousin who I am close to has a 20 month old son and is due with her second child in 7 weeks. She had a huge baby shower where she received top of the line everything for her 1st child. I got a call from her best friend about a month ago asking if I wanted to help thow her a second baby shower. I explained tactfully that I couldn't be involved in throwing the shower because 1st off, I don't agree with her having a second shower, but if she wanted to do it, that's fine. - her 1st son is not even two, she has everything she could possible need and more - all top of the line items and I don't want to ask the rest of the family to buy her addt'l gifts, because I know that nobody is in the financial position at this time. I explained that of course I would be buying the baby a gift when she is born, but I believe that a shower is an event to give you a head start - now if there was a large time frame between children or if her baby gear was outdated or worn, or multiples were expected, ok then. But that's not it. You know, if she wanted to have a small get together after the baby was born to help celebrate her birth and meet her, fine - but a full out second shower - I just don't agree with it.
Yesterday, I got the invite in the mail to attend this shower. Guess what? It falls on a date that I have already responded to take my children to a party. My husband isn't home, so he can't do the party and that means that if I changed my plans to attend the shower, I would have take my kids with me and I don't think children belong at a shower.
So, I guess I am asking if it seems like I am boycotting the shower by not attending. My cousin knows about it and knows the situation with how I feel. Or am I being a hippocrit (sp) for even thinking about attending. I really don't want to have to dissapoint my kids in changing their plans either. But I also don't want to insult my cousin and have her think that I don't care about her having her baby.
What do ya think?