New rules for visiting
We just returned from 2 months at a beach house and I encountered some things I hadn't before when entertaining. What do you all think?
First, don't ask to use our computers. They're so personal, with passwords saved, etc. We had WiFi, but one couple told us it was just easier to log into ours. I told them I'd rather they didn't and felt that THEY felt rebuffed.
Next, don't fool with the electronics without being shown. This house had a complicated AV system, and we barely understood it ourselves. Twice, the TVs got so messed up by people randomly "mashing buttons". It took a long time to undo the mixups. Another time a man went into our bedroom to search for something else to watch, as he didn't like what the rest of us had chosen. I felt sort of "space invaded." Also, he messed up the remote.
Next get with the program. We had planned lots of nice activities and sightseeing things only to be told, "We don't like to walk that far." Maybe they couldn't, but we and they missed a lot of interesting things. I tried to get them to suggest alternative activities but they came up blank.
Lastly, please recognize that we tried hard and spent money to plan meals. We provided the hard and soft drinks that they said they liked. We had asked ahead of time for food likes and dislikes and kept those in mind, but when we tried serving guacamole, beef barbecue or homemade macaroni and cheese, we were told by one of the parties (and not always the same one) that "I don't eat that."
Am I being picky? These people are all longtime friends and have entertained us. When we've been their guests, we've always gone with the flow and participated in whatever was presented.
Next year when we go back, I am going to think long and hard about who I invite and how we will all get along together for a week. BTW, this was a huge house with plenty of space for everyone to "do their own thing."