etiquette on inviting specific family only
I am having a luau b-day party for my DH 50th. I am having it at VFW w/ open bar. my husband has 1 family member that brings not only his grown kids w/their kids to evrything. but they usually bring 3-4 other people we dont evn know. they even did this to our wedding. i want to specifically say in their invite "brother and spouse only" but dont think they'll get it. im paying for the cash bar and their group will cost me couple hundred by themselves. in addition to being loud and rude.
also how rude is it that i do want to invite a couple other nephews in the family???