How would you handle this?
We have some friends that are expecting a baby and we are thrilled for them. We tried to be nice and offered to throw a baby shower. Now, we have thrown many showers and we have had showers thrown for us. We anticipated throwing a great shower (we always get loads of compliments on our parties), so I felt sure they would love what we would do for them. Plus, this is about celebrating a baby -- how can you not be happy when the celebration is about getting to bring a baby home to love on!!
So, now that we are into the shower planning, the couple suggested to me that we have the party catered by a pricey restaurant. I suggested that we make the food ourselves because of the large guest list, but this was ignored and they went to another hostess and had her make the suggestion for the catering...So, all of a sudden, they were expecting a steak fajita buffet catered, a keg, a margarita machine, a chocolate fountain among other things. This is not at all what I thought they would expect of us when I offered to throw a baby shower. I have never been in a situation where the couple made any requests (except for the invite list) -- much less requests of this nature. This is a baby shower!! I spoke up and said that we did not need a keg, but that we could buy some beer and the couple said not to worry -- It won't go to waste because the superbowl is the next day and they won't let it go to waste. Now, I skimped on my own child's birthday because of our budget and now I'm expected to shell out all this money for margs, a marg machine and a keg because they want a game day fiesta the day after their shower? I'm sooo in shock. I love these friends dearly, but I think they have lost the meaning of this shower...We are supposed to be celebrating the new life that they are bringing in to the world...I had no idea we'd be throwing a kegger. My word - -I felt so lucky to have a baby that I didn't have one request or complaint about anything done for me when showers were given for me.
I had to tell them "no" to the buffet being catered when it was pushed...So, we aren't doing that. But, they are insisting on the keg and asking for the margs...and even mentioned that they could use it the next day for the superbowl...I'm truly appalled by my friends behavior...And, I'm in an awkward situation because I cannot afford this right now.
They also mentioned registering for expensive things that they don't want so that they can take them back and get a lot more with the money...My heart sunk to hear this. If I splurged for something on their registration list because they registered for it and they didn't really want it, I would be so hurt.
Suggestions please??? And, remember, I really do care about these people --- I guess that is why it feels so bad to be taken advantage of in this way and why it feels so shocking. Please give me suggestions on how to handle this without causing a rift in our friendship.