OT: Need T & P's

christmascandyMarch 18, 2014

DH's 39 yr old DD (my stepDD of 14 yrs) took her own l I f e yesterday. She had struggled for decades with Al*co*hol addi*ction and tried other methods.
This time she was successful.

Please send up your T & P's for our family.

Thanks for your support,
Candy

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slinkey

Oh Candy....how terrible.
I'm so sorry for the tragic loss of your DD.
My thoughts and prayers go out to you - and your DH.
jane

    Bookmark   March 18, 2014 at 8:54PM
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Purplemoon

I'm terribly sorry, Candy. I will keep you and your family in my thoughts and prayers.
hugs, Karen

    Bookmark   March 18, 2014 at 10:39PM
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oldalgebra

My prayers are for you and your family.
I'm so sorry to hear this.

    Bookmark   March 19, 2014 at 12:17AM
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nana2010_gw

Candy, I'm so sorry to hear this. It is so tragic.
My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family.
Nana

    Bookmark   March 19, 2014 at 7:18AM
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marylee_2010

I am sorry to hear of your loss. Am sending thoughts and prayers. Marylee

    Bookmark   March 19, 2014 at 7:50AM
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phonegirl

Candy, this is sooo SAD. Sharing your sorrow
and sending my love to you and yours. Will be
sending extra hugs and prayers your way.

Punk

    Bookmark   March 19, 2014 at 6:33PM
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Brynn_ND

I am so sorry. Sending prayers for your family.

    Bookmark   March 20, 2014 at 5:37PM
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jeannespines

To your grieving husband & you & family & friends, I am sending hugs & prayers for the days ahead...such sadness & diseases cannot even be understood by those who love someone. May she find peace in God's arms. ~~hugs, Jeanne S.

    Bookmark   March 20, 2014 at 11:50PM
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janet1_2007

Candy, My heart breaks for you and your family. My first DH took his own life in 1988, so I know a little of the pain you are going through. I will keep you in tender thoughts and prayers. One of our deacons from church and I are trying to get a awarness/support group started and have been working feavorishly trying to get others interested for the past couple of months. A little 13 yr old girl in our community hanged herself right before Christmas, and needless to say it hit us pretty hard. Our little county in God's beautiful mountains unfortnately has the highest sucide rate in the state, and we want to raise awareness that depression is a disease just as much as heart disease or cancer, and the suffering is just as real. May God wrap you and your family in His love and help you find your way through this tragic loss. Hugs and love to a very special friend, Janet

    Bookmark   March 22, 2014 at 10:13PM
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kathleen_li

How very sad! My prayers for your family.
I so agree with Janet. People just don't understand.

    Bookmark   March 25, 2014 at 3:06PM
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Marlene Kindred

I am so very sorry about this Candy. How sad for all of you. Will be praying for all of you.

    Bookmark   March 25, 2014 at 8:55PM
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Creekbum

Oh, Candy, How sad! So sorry to hear this news! My thought and prayers are with you and Family as you go though this tough time. (((HUGS)))) To You Dear Friend!

    Bookmark   March 29, 2014 at 8:03AM
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christmascandy

Thanks everybody.

We are still in CA. It took over a week to get the body released, and now we are waiting for the ashes. It is very regulated here in CA and once we got the body, we were told it would be another 7-10 days to get the ashes.

We have cleaned out her apartment and cleaned her apartment. DH is now dealing with paperwork.

It will probably be this coming Monday before we can gather everyone for a sunset ceremony on the beach.
We had the actual service last Wednesday, but will have the family for the sunset ceremony.

Her addic*tion was so extreme, that this was only one of many times that she had attempted this, only this time she succeeded.

You are all so special and it means a great deal to have your support.

Thanks again,
Candy

    Bookmark   April 2, 2014 at 1:34PM
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Creekbum

Candy, I am so sorry! I do not know how you feel as I have never had to experience this kind of death. My thoughts and Prayers are with you and your Family! ((HUGS))) To You! Sending my Love as Well! Take Care Dear Friend!

    Bookmark   April 2, 2014 at 4:03PM
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jeannespines

Hugs to you, dear friend & your hubby & family. Jeanne S.

    Bookmark   April 2, 2014 at 4:54PM
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Purplemoon

Thinking of you with much love, Candy.
hugs, Karen

    Bookmark   April 3, 2014 at 12:35AM
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Marlene Kindred

Continued prayers for you and your family Candy. So very sorry for all that you are going through.

Hugs,
Marlene

    Bookmark   April 3, 2014 at 9:43AM
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janet1_2007

Candy, your family have been in my thoughts and prayers daily. and will continue to be. May God help you all to get through this. You are such a special friend! Janet

    Bookmark   April 3, 2014 at 2:11PM
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maximavswife

My dear friend Candy, I am just now seeing this. I am so sorry. My thoughts are with you and your family during this painful and difficult time.

Kath

    Bookmark   April 10, 2014 at 3:10PM
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emeraldisle624

I'm so sorry for your loss. Keeping your family in my thoughts and prayers.

    Bookmark   April 12, 2014 at 7:24PM
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christmascandy

We are finally home.
I just want to say how very much I appreciate your support!!
This is just the greatest bunch of friends and your sentiments are more helpful than you can possibly realize.

We held the family ceremony on the beach just outside the apartment where she lived. It was sunset as the beach and sunset were 2 of her favorite things.

Her 16 yr. old son and her ex-husband who still loved her very much, but couldn't handle her lifestyle each took some ashes out on the ocean on their surfboards. They sprinkled the ashes, did a ceremonial splash goodbye, and just then a pod? of dolphins swam by. It was a beautiful sunset, and a very meaningful time for the family.

My DH is handling it very well. He will celebrate 30 yrs of sobriety this July and as a recovering alcoholic, understands the devastation of the disease.

Sara's life was so chaotic because of ;her drug and alcohol addiction and we know she is now at peace and the rest of the family can move on knowing her/our drama is over.

I sincerely thank you all for keeping us in your prayers.

We can start to heal, and your support is a huge part of that process.

Hugs to you all,
Candy

    Bookmark   April 16, 2014 at 10:39PM
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phonegirl

Candy, hope you and DH are dealing with this as best as
you can. Such a trying time for all involved. Loved reading
the part about her DH and son with the dolphins. Sounds
like the sunset memorial was a special way to celebrate her
life here on earth.

Nice to see an update from you. We miss you and will be
waiting to hear more from you. Take Care and God Bless
all of you.

Love, Punk

    Bookmark   April 18, 2014 at 10:34AM
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blizlady

Candy, my heart is just breaking for your DH and you, along with the rest of the family. My son took is own life 4 years ago 4/19/10 and words cannot describe how devastating the loss of a child is, and in addition to the tragic way she died. You will be in my thoughts and prayers.

    Bookmark   April 18, 2014 at 4:19PM
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slinkey

Once again Candy...I'm so sorry for your loss and for
all the anguish everyone experienced, including your Step Daughter..
As I read about the beautiful ceremony held for her on the beach ,I thought that yes, she is at peace, and hopefully with time, all of you will find peace also.
jane

    Bookmark   April 19, 2014 at 12:50AM
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Purplemoon

Candy, that was such a lovely....and special with dolphins...ceremony. I'm so glad your family that as a final goodbye.

Blizlady, I can only say I'm so very sorry for your own tragic loss. That can of pain is unimaginable.
hugs, Karen

    Bookmark   April 20, 2014 at 9:38PM
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