Mom's manipulation lands her in legal trouble
My mom is probably in her mid to late 70's. I am not certain because for as long as I have been alive, I have known my mother to be manipulative and a liar to benefit herself. She has landed herself in big trouble, partly do to her limit in the English language and inability to understand the law, and because she thought she would never get caught.
She became Trustee of her brother's estate but could not handle the duties. She 'gave' the job to another relative, without going to court and allowed that person to assume her identity. You must think I am nuts, but let me tell you that not all old people are sweet. Anyway, my mother hid the paperwork never letting the beneficiaries know that they were going to inherit the entire estate. With the help of the other relative, the relative embezzled the trust funds, and a month later the true beneficiaries became aware of the fact that they were going to lose their inheritance because my mother failed to inform them, as was her duty as Trustee. Long story short, this has lead to a litigation filed by 3 beneficiaries against my mother and the relative. Here it is 8 months later, and my mother who inherited $75k, on a POD account, was ordered to return the money to the law firm, so they could take correct accounting. In all honesty, my mother who has bouts of possible dementia, had alot to do with over $200,000 in funds missing. Now as the suit nears possible end, we were informed by the beneficiaries attorney, that my mother faces losing her entire $75k, and it is likely the judge will award the money to the beneficiaries because my mother failed to carry out her duty in a legal and honest matter and maintained silence as to the missing $200k funds as outlined in the court documents. I am ashamed that she could do such a thing! I informed her yesterday that she may lose her money when I spoke to the attorney and it is possible they will let her mediate for a portion, but if she doesn't she may loose it. We received 10 pages of legal court docs yesterday, with a headline reading that they filed a petition for surcharge against my mother. She is going to go crazy if she loses her money. How do I deal with this and make her understand. She says the judge has no right. She talked to an attorney on her own that told her she was in the wrong to cheat her siblings and therefore may pay a price. How do I deal with an aging mother that didn't know the law, or choses to ignore it, but is definitely manipulative by nature? I don't want it to cost us our relationship as I am the only one left as she has burned all of her bridges with her relatives.