I just need to vent some
Where do I start? Well, let me start off with that I've been caring for my dad for 20 months now and it's been the longest 20 months of my life. While there has been many good times together there has been the hard times to go with caring for dad. It does not help that I have back problems and not in the best of health myself. I'm a 52 yr old female. I started taking care of dad when his brother my uncle passed away Jan of 2006. My uncles death was not expected, he died of an aneurysm at the age of 75.
Dad has problems urinating due to scar tissue. He did have an enlarged prostate but with medication it's now ok. With his problems urinating he will take flowmax even though his doctor has told him he does not need it. He think's it helps him to go. Also when he's not able to go he'll take his high blood pressure medication. He had two types of high blood pressure medication and just two weeks ago he'd gone to his doctor asking to be put back on the old high blood pressure medicine. Well, dad now has two types of blood pressure medicine and he had the newest one filled and ask my son to pick it up at the drug store.
Dad did not tell my son what the medicine was for, dad calls it his peeing medicine.
I have told has doctors and the hospital that dad takes his medicine when he thinks he needs it not as it should be taken. The flowmax he has taken up to three pills in one day.
I have told dad that he's not to be taking the flowmax anymore the doctor said his prostate is fine and he doesn't need it and I have tried to explain to dad that these medicines have nothing to do with his ability to urinate.
What's really bad is that dad's PMC doctor will give dad whatever medicine he ask for. The bad thing is I cannot take dad away from this doctor because dads mind is slipping away slowly and he gets lost when having to go to the heart doctor and urologist. There are times when I'll take him on a drive and he'll not know where he's at. Now this is a man that drove all the time, it was a hobby LOL...he could not stand to stay at home so he drove all around town so I know he should know where he's at when I'm driving. In fact I know of the places I drive because it's where he'd drive us around as kid's around showing us places.
The specialist told me that dad's bladder is very strong and the wall has thickened up and this causes him to not have to go as often as normal. Well, dad gets all worried and will call me to take him up to the hospital.
The past two weeks I told dad that I needed to take some time to take care of myself and that I'd be over three times a week to take care of him. He will not have in home health care. The doctor ordered it just a month ago he dad said no.
I went in for my check up and the doctor found a mole that needs to removed and I need to have my mammogram done. Not to mention that I've been trying to find a doctor for my back. I'm in pain 85 % of the time with my back. On good day's dad is able to care for himself but it can change in a matter of hours, His mind becomes clouded and he can't remember thing's.
I'm so frustrated