Sundowners and seeing things
Back on June 17th, I found this group and posted a message about sundowning. Starting to see my mom with symptoms. However, the past 10 days have been very hard.
My mom lives with my wife and I, along with our 8 year old son and 19 month old son. She suffers from Parkinsons and has bad bouts with Dimentia.
About three weeks ago, my wife saw her acting confused, unlike ever before. She was putting mayonaise onto some papers and trying to put tea bags into a calender. After a few days, she became more confused to the point she was waking in the middle of the night and coming into our room accusing us of shining lights around her room. One night, she looked possesed and was very determined to accuse us of trying to make her think she was crazy.
We ended up taking her to the ER a couple days later due to the confusion and aggressiveness. She was diagnosed with a UT (Urinary Tract)infection. They kept her over night and relased her the next day. That was one week ago.
For the past week, she has not shown too many signs of hallucinating, but has acted confused at times. I began reading up on sundowners and found UTs can increase the symptoms.
Last night though, she woke up in the middle of the night and tied her bra around our dog's collar to "walk her" in the house. My mom also insisted that there were "little kids" on the back patio and cars parked in our backyard. Of course, none of this existed. She went on to say our house was a "witches cavern" which I had never heard that term before. After an hour, she went back to bed.
This morning, she was very apologetic about what happened and "promised" it would not happen again, but I know she can't control it.
My wife are thinking about hiring a live in nanny since my mom's condition can occur at a moments notice and other times she is fine for hours or days. It would be too expensive to hire hourly care and she does not need nursing skills.
But my wife and I are concerned about our kids and it is starting to impact or peaceful home life.
Has anyone else been experiencing this and what did you find helpful? We figured if we hired a live in nanny, she would be more for helping my wife with the kids, cleaning and cooking. That way my mom could continue to help my mom when needed and take restful naps during the day with a nanny's help.
My mom's Parkinson's Dr. will not prescribe a sleep aide at night because he wants to regulate her new schedule of meds before doing that. I guess her schedule has to change after her UT. But I really think she needs something to knock her out at night so she doesn't get up and see things.
I did read about Sundowners where it is linked to lack of sleep and overtired from the day. I can see where this would be true for my mom. She is going and going and going during the day trying to do everything. We constantly tell her to sit and rest and she complains she won't be able to move if she does.
Thanks for any information!