Just need to vent
My mom is in a state of constant complaining. Every time I call her, or go to visit she complains about the aides not doing what she wants. Tells me I am no help but when I ask what I can do to help she can not answer. I know my mom and I truly believe she is complaining so much thinking I will just bring her home.........that is NOT going to happen. As I have stated before my mom can be very demanding and I know I would loose total control if I had her here 24/7, even if I hired help in.
She told me today that I finally "got rid of her".........I asked her if she thought it was my fault she had a stroke. She did not answer but ya know, I think she is trying to figure a way to blame someone for what happened to her. She has always been able to blame others for all that has happened in her life. This time she can't.
Mom then said she did not want to be in the nursing home, I said I could understand but went on to say that "Jack" (my brother, her son) does not want to be there either. Her response? "I don't care about what he wants".......
I then ended the conversation, if I was going to bring anyone home it would be my brother as he is a little more functional than her and certainly not as demanding.
Okay, I am done with my vent........thanks, I just needed to get all this out!