advice please! new here, long tale
Hi all, so happy to have found you! Hope you can give me some advice on how to deal with this situation.Here's that long tale: )
85 year old MIL needs to see Cardiologist in order to get meds refilled. She is aware of this and basically says she'll just stop taking the damn pills. ARGHH!
She has moved and was referred to new Cardiologist and I got her an appt in Sept. (fear of Dr.s and cancels appts. the day before them, so she does not know she has appt). She also needs a new Primary Care Dr. in order to see the specialist. She has informed us that she is not going to have anything done or have any type of testing. I found a family Dr. very close to her and have an appt. set for this Thursday. DH is working and I offered to take her, hoping that she might be calmer going with me, but now I'm stressing that I won't handle this right and she will refuse to go. I plan on telling her tomorrow that we will go "Check this Dr. out and see what we think". Keep it light and stress that it's a formality to getting her meds refilled.
IMHO, she has suffered from depression for a LONG time and has a number of anxiety related issues. Her health is NOT good and she is now experiencing stomach ailments, lack of appetite and episodes of diarrhea. She will not talk to her sons about her health and basically sticks her head in the sand. I am very concerned for her and know she could have a much better quality of life, but her anxiety and fears of Drs. aren't helping.
Any advice on how to handle this would be most appreciated. She will not listen to DH and will clam up and stop talking to him if he brings up medical issues. She will open up to me somewhat, but again, if it's not something she wants to hear, will turn a deaf ear.
Sorry this is sooo long. Thanks for listening!