Can I Join??!!
Hi, Hey, Ho. I am a long time member of the Homesite forums. Fariegold knows me from being on the "Building a Home" Forum.
Built the house - and built a room for 91-year-old Mom to EVENTUALLY come to (a four-year project). As life would have it, she moved in two weeks after we moved in - before I'd even begun to unpack and live my lifelong dream.
Mom is 91. When she moved here from her "Senior Condo" she had just been in the hospital for 6 weeks in Memphis' Baptist East due to getting MRSA (or whtever it is - that BAD hospital staph infection) from her PREVIOUS stay for a simple Rotator cuff injury in Sept.
I took her in last Oct., then, Dec., ...the reality of the Staph hit her and my 4 siblings in Jan. It - whatever that staph is...was so bad..the CDC got involved.
So...backtrack; I'm in my brand new FOREVVER dream house in Feb. I HAD built a room for her. But I never expected that her "final care which I had proimised" would fall on me the minute I moved in. Guess "You Get What You Ask For" totally came true...;)>
At any rate, when she arrived here via my siblings wanting to DUMP HER OFF, she was near death. Even she knew it. She would lay prostate on her bed at least two times a week and just PRAY for death.
Long story short; Due to the fact that I live in a very small University Community and the Doctors and Alternative Health people all work together - we've brought her back from life. The Alternative stuff is what reeeeeally saved her but more on that later...
In the meantime, we're in a new (very nice, small crime-free-intellectual-loving university) community on top of a mountain.
I am going to a counselor to learn how to deal with Mom's EXTREME Passive-Agressiveness and my willingness to let her and my four siblings run rampant all over me...Another long story to come. (Have done much, much better in the past two weeks).
Funny thing is that I am a liscensed Gerontologist. Ask me anything about AZ, incontinence, social-psychology of the elderly, etc. -- and I can answer it in a technological sense.
None of my knowledge in my Master's Degree or teaching really helps with dealing with having my Mom here with me. I doubt that anything any one of you can read "out there in the media/info world" REALLY helps with "the emotions."
So, at any rate, I just want to join you with welcome arms. I sure could use some welcome arms from somewhere/anywhere.
AND I PROMISE TO BEHAVE!!!! (that's a take-off on Mom, who thinks that me at 50 --- with 6 kids and 2 grand-kids, and this wonderful home she lives in where I wait on her hand and foot - I am/or what I do is never ENOUGH!!!).
Hope you will welcome me. I need a porch to sit and swing (and cry) on.