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I have privately worked for years as an assistant to an elderly couple. Household & staff management only, no personal care. However, they are at the very top end of elderly. I've figured my duties out on the fly & have no problems w/ my job.
However, my 72 year old mother fell 2 weeks ago & broke both her femurs. Prior med history...pacemaker, 2 hips replaced 6/7 years ago, 1 knee replaced 5 years ago, feet are bad (difficulty walking, wearing shoes) and other knee was looking at being replaced next year. Overweight, single & lives 5/6 hours away from me, but highly motivated.
I am receiving very little info re the rehab process as no one seems to know right now. Surgeon has been great w/ me, just doesn't know. Understandable.
Except, 2 days after her fall I signed, under POA, for her to go into a subsidized seniors unit which she had chosen and was booked into before the fall. I instructed the movers not to unpack as it is on the second floor of a large, interconnected building w/ 1 "lift". I really am not sure she will ever go there.
And, a friend of my Mum's took it upon herself to look after Mum's animals (1 dog, 2 cats) without my prior knowledge. However, Mum's dog was one she was fostering & Mum's friend returned it to the rescue agency. Mum was in the process of adopting it when she fell and begs me not to let her dog go. I will not take the dog as it is a "disturbed" rescue dog & I have 4 of my own that I refuse to be bullied by this dog.
I don't know where to go next with all of this. I know that I have to inform the housing unit that Mum may never go into the apartment, I know I have to inform Mum that she may lose her apt & her dog.
When do you do this? How do you do this? I don't know if I should take a day off this week, drive down & put it on the line, or hold off to keep her in good spirits.
It's her body that's broken, not her mind. Though she doesn't like to hear anything unpleasant. As she said to me this week..."My job is to get better. I don't want to talk about anything else" Well, as I am the only family member she has...that puts everything on me. I had 2 brothers, but they died in a car accident 20 years ago, her parents are dead, no uncle, no nothing, so I am it.
I just don't know what to do next. My net searches of 2 broken femurs turns up a 23 year old cheerleader and a football player.
Can anyone give me an idea of how to handle this? I'd never ask, but I'm lost.