caregiving (long term)
Dad has finally agreed to put Mom in a nursing home after having paid for in home help for 30+ years. She has MS. She is 90 and he is 94. This is gonna be a huge adjustment for him. It is a toss up which one will die first - her because he had to put her in a nursing home or him from 'guilt'.
At the same time I am dealing with my own DH who is stage 4 esophageal cancer so there's not much I can do to help him emotionally.