She's in

Pearl53April 20, 2005

She's in and words cannot express what a hellish day

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You did it, now .... breathe....

She'll be fine, she's safe and will be well cared for, as will you.

    Bookmark   April 20, 2005 at 6:42PM
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Hugs for you, Pearl. But I agree, she will be fine and so will you. It all takes time.

    Bookmark   April 20, 2005 at 7:53PM
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May the Lord give your DM peace,rest and I am sure she will be well taken care of. Time...just one day at a time!!!! Get your rest and be good to yourself. Blessings, Nora

    Bookmark   April 20, 2005 at 8:25PM
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May the Lord bless and help you and your precious mother.

    Bookmark   April 20, 2005 at 9:13PM
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Pearl, use these next few days to take GOOD CARE of yourself. Rest, sleep, try to eat properly. Can you take a day or two off from work, just to de-compress?

She will be fine. In time, she may not remember that this wasn't always her home. You are not a bad or evil daughter. On the contrary, you came to the realization that she needed more than you could provide and that you would be doing her a disservice NOT to give her what she needed. So you brought her someplace that could take care of her.

Try to get some rest tonight.

    Bookmark   April 20, 2005 at 9:58PM
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Pearl, try to relax and take care of yourself for a few days. You and your Mom will be in my thoughts and prayers...

    Bookmark   April 21, 2005 at 12:54AM
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Dear Pearl,
How I feel for you....the others are right...try to take a few days just for take care of you...Your DM is going to be okay. Now is the time to take care of YOU. I am thinking of you and keeping you and your mom in my prayers. Mimi

    Bookmark   April 21, 2005 at 8:09AM
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Pearl: yes, it was one of the worst days of my life, too. But let me try to comfort you with my experience....after your dear Mom as been in for a few days, you'll begin to realize that this was the best decision for HER. Although we continue to grieve our loss (and it is a loss and continues to be), I now recognize that she's in a much more stimulating environment, receiving kind, caring, and professional care, which she'll require more of than we could ever provide. Let time take its course: you'll go through all the stages of grief that one goes thru with the death of a loved one (

Most of all, Pearl, be kind to yourself. Know that you did this for unselfish reasons; you're a good daughter. Now you will have pleasant visits with her, you can take her walking, out for tea or lunch, for rides....knowing she'll return to her safe place. Regenerate yourself; find those things you used to enjoy and take time to re-aquaint yourself with them.

You'll see....this will get easier, I promise.


    Bookmark   April 21, 2005 at 2:18PM
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Thinking about'cha, Pearl. I'm sure this is a bad time. You are entitled to your feelings. You will be "on top of things", I'm sure.
Your new life will take some getting used to...give yourself and your Mom some time. (((Pearl))) Derry

    Bookmark   April 21, 2005 at 7:45PM
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Pearl, how are you doing today?

    Bookmark   April 21, 2005 at 8:01PM
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Pearl: I know it is hard to do, but as the others say, take this time for yourself. Your mom is in good hands and you will soon see that it was the best thing you could do for her.

    Bookmark   April 22, 2005 at 4:17AM
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Dear Pearl,
It's a difficult time for you & each day will improve...please try to rest.

Love, Sharlee

    Bookmark   April 22, 2005 at 12:35PM
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