New here, long vent...suggestions please
Okay, my husband and I have lived in our current apartment for about 2 months now and lived in a different apartment for 2 years before moving here. Since moving in, we've had issues with the neighbor upstairs and I'm really getting frustrated. It started out with loud music, as in loud enough to feel vibrations in our walls/furniture in our apartment. At the time, the girl upstairs had several people over and I did NOT feel comfortable going upstairs alone to say something. Our move in packet had instructions to relay any concerns about parking, noise, litter, etc to the resident manager. So I did call but only got voice mail.
The loud music continued daily for several weeks and for the most part unless one of us was trying to sleep, we did our best to ignore it. We have said spoken with our leasing office about this as well now and tried to get them to understand that my husband works extremely varied and usually long hours. So to us, 2 in the afternoon may be bedtime after working a 16 hour shift and music loud enough to wake a normally sound sleeper is just not acceptable at any time.
Now the music issue has been reduced to about once a week but we're having other problems such as groups of loud people in her apartment, loud voices out on her patio where she seems to like to make all her phone calls, doors and cupboards slamming, loud and heavy footsteps, and I swear the girl has butter fingers because more things get dropped on her floor/our ceiling than I can even believe. We haven't said anything about this but once at 2am I admit that I was frustrated enough from lack of sleep to pull out the old broom stick to the ceiling to which I got a stomping reply from upstairs.
Then last week I went down to the laundry room to do a load. When I came back down the hallway, someone had put a half opened package of spoiled round steak in front of our door. It was placed there within a matter of 3 minutes of me being down the hall and I could here loud laughter from the apartment upstairs when I found it. My apartment is on the garden level and at the end of the hall way so it was obviously placed on purpose. I wanted to call the resident manager but my husband thought it would only make things worse. I did mention it to the leasing office when I went to pay rent though and they told me to call if it happened again.
I don't like being on edge like this though...wondering what's going to happen next, if I'll be able to sleep that night and function the next day. My poor husband is so sleep deprived and I'm getting there myself. I don't know how we're going to make it until July. I realize that we do live in a college town but I feel that we have a right to be able to comfortably live and sleep in our own home. Does anyone have any suggestions, please?