Moved to a house & have a nasty neighbor
First, I'm really happy that this Apartment Living forum is back up. I didn't understand why the forum was removed when it was so popular.
It's been over a year since I posted on the Apartment Living forum. I had initially started a thread called something like "do you feel physically ill because of noisy neighbors?" This thread received a lot of responses. I had some lousy neighbors at the time who stomped, slammed doors, constantly had company at all hours, etc. And because I spoke to them a couple of times about the noise and then contacted the condo association, they went ahead and had their landlord's attorney (the attorney is the landlord's brother!) send a notice to us that we were harassing these neighbors...oh, yeah right!...they were the ones causing the problems with making all the noise and some of the noise was intentional. It's too bad these days that when you complain just a couple of times about something that someone is doing wrong, they go to an attorney who sends you a letter saying that you are harassing them.
Anyway, since this Apartment forum went down, I finally got a small house that doesn't have much land separating it from the houses next door. If I had more money, I would have opted for much more land! Well, the neighbors on the right of me are friendly, helpful, quiet people. However, the neighbor to the left of me is a witch. From day one I tried to be friendly by saying hi and waving, but she never responded back. She had a boyfriend living with her who she had gotten arrested some months ago for assault, threatening, and disorderly conduct. She has a restraining order against him, so he no longer lives with her and their 2 yr old son. But when he lived there, I could hear them arguing at 4am-5am with the baby crying on and on in response. I thought that when he was gone for good things would improve. But she is still a witch and a loudmouth...I started to wave to her again and she just ignored me. She, her son, and her big dog are often on my property. She does not watch her son very well when they are outside and so he gets into my flower garden where he damaged some of my decorative objects. All she does is yell at him at the top of her lungs and all he does is cry and cry. I would hate to be her son, being yelled at constantly...that is no way to treat a child. I have never witnessed her being loving towards her boy or hugging him...I feel so sorry for the way he is being raised.
Well, it's come down to me having to tell her to keep off of my property, and I've had to tell her three times so far within more than a year's time period...but of course she doesn't seem to care. She has no respect for my property. The last time I confronted her in a friendly manner while she was on my property with her lawn mower parked right against my house, she started yelling at me as if I have no right to ask her to stay off my lawn! "Put up a fence," she says. I'm the one who should be angry, she's the one who should at least say sorry for being on my property. Never once has she apologized for her son taking items from my flower garden and for riding all over my front lawn with his toy car or for her dog jumping on me and my parents many times while were were minding our own business in my yard. I also want to say that I feel for her son, and I know that it is not his fault if he wanders around my yard investigating everything, it is his mother's responsibility to keep a close eye on him and to teach him to stay in her yard. I've even seen him wandering in the middle of the street while she was busy doing yardwork with her back turned. At this point, I can't stand her and I already am thinking of selling this house...I dream of a house with more land separating me from neighbors, because with the house I'm in, there's not much space between houses and so it's too close for my liking because of the witch.
Yes, the situation improved when I moved into a house: no more listening to neighbors slamming doors, stomping feet, banging items, etc...and it is so wonderful to not have to go through the stress of that noise, and now I don't have to worry about waking up the neighbors if I stay up late or get up early, but when you get into a house, you may still end up next to yet another nasty neighbor. I was praying that this wouldn't happen, that I would be blessed with great neighbors...oh well, the bad neighbors seem to be attached to me :(
I still totally relate to your apartment neighbor problems and really feel for you all in my heart.