Making Sure He Leaves!
Here are the facts:
I live with my boyfriend and his brother. Their friend asked for help to get away for home issues for a few months. The friend, 31yrs of age still lived at home with his mother. He tried to move in with his ex-girlfriend, after she bought a new house, expecting to live there for free and see whomever he wanted. I guess she was going to consider it if they got back together but, he said he was no longer interested in her. So live at home in a bad situation or mooch off of his childhood "friends". My boyfriend came to me and asked if it were okay for their friend to move in with us for a couple of months. I wasn't really okay with it, but I know that if I were in that situation I would hope my friends would help me out, so I said yes. Well, a couple of months, went to through the summer and that went to 6 months.
I had a long serious talk with my boyfriend about how this sort of abuse of trust will affect our relationship if his friend is not out of here during the allotted time. This was understood. I made it clear at this point (if it was not made clear to him earlier) that I don't like living with a lot of people and having to deal with their guests (meaning one night stands, loud obnoxious buddies that don't clean up after themselves, nor strangers). Nor do I like to wake up to a dirty kitchen, which until this day continues to be a problem. This guy doesn't work and he only helps around the house if he is told/asked to. They (the brothers) tried to have him pay less rent and then the three of us split the rent equally. I told my boyfriend that he is not my friend nor my responsibility. The rent will be split four ways and they need to cover whatever he cannot. So that is how it is happening. Glad I stood up to that.
The guy now has some women coming and going as she pleases (she has yet to spend the night at her own house whcih is almost a month now, not to mention the loud un-sexy noises she makes when they are having sex) I have been dealing with.
At first I did not acknowledge the guy and figured instead of being rude and not acknowledge him that I would be the bigger person and be respectful to him since he would be "OUT!" in a few months.
I need to make sure he leaves when he is suppose to and not prolong his stay for any reason whatsoever, no exceptions. He has been disrespectful and unappreciative (I forgot to add that I hired him on my job when he first moved in because my boyfriend and his brother asked as a favor. It was mindless work so I did but, he disrespected me in front of my boss, disrespected her and created problems for me as a result. I let him go and that caused friction at home which I discussed numerous times with my boyfriend, since I was made to be looked at as the "bad guy" at home. As I mentioned before I let bygones be bygones and turned to be more social and friendlier because I know it's only a matter of time before he leaves).
Someone please give me some serious advice for measures to take to make sure he leaves no matter what other circumstance comes up. I don't care if I look like the bad guy. I'm too a point where if he does not leave I will leave my boyfriend and never speak to him or his brother again based on principle if he stays longer.