Neighbor pounds on ceiling at 3 am to try to wake me up

lucy_tenantJanuary 19, 2009

Hi everyone,

I have been reading everyone's posts on here seeing if anyone has had the same problem as me, but none have come close and I am looking for advise now. I live on the top floor. I am extremely considerate of the girl living below me. My apartment is all hardwood floors and it is a very old building. The floors move and creak all the time. Because of this I never,ever even wear my shoes in my place. I go to bed everynight between 9 and 10 pm. I am only awake and in my apartment for about 3 hours everyday. The rest of the time I am at work, then the gym, and then come home for dinner and go to bed. I live by myself and have even bought carpets to put all over the floors to try to help with the noise of walking around.

My issues come into play at around 3-4 am every night. The girl that lives below me must be up late, and also knows that I have been asleep for some time now. She thinks it is funny to throw a basketball into the ceiling at these very late hours. It scares me and wakes me up. It is done intentionally everynight around the same time. She will do it once, wait a few minutes, do it again. Sometimes she does it only a few times, sometimes it has lasted for about 15 min. To me this is unacceptable. I have contacted the management company and they said that they have talked to her, but it still continues. I am at a loss of words now. I email/call the management company the next day everytime it happens. Does anyone have any advice on what to do?

I really do make every effort to not make noise.

I have wanted to start calling the police, but as everyone says, it doesnt really seem to do a whole lot. If I try to talk to the girl below me, she does not answer the door. And hte management company seems to just not really care. Is there anything I can do?

Thanks for anyones advice or suggestions.

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thegrinch17

I have very noisy neighbors myself, so I know how you feel. These people moved in above me about 4 months ago & it's been sheer hell ever since. They never sleep & they never leave their apartment, so the noise is 24/7. Their household consists of several children under the age of 4 years & various adults. They are also Mexican. They never control the kids & never make them go to bed, so the kids are up all night banging, pounding & stomping on my ceilings & screaming. The adults are just as bad as the kids! They constantly fight, talk very loudly, drop heavy stuff on my ceilings, blast their tv, stomp around all the time.They purposely make loud pounding sounds late at night to wake us up. We have to sleep with ear plugs & with 2 fans running on high.I have reported them to the office manager but she won't do anything about it. She told me to move if I'm not happy here & I have lived here going on 6 years! Can you believe that? I'm a good & quiet tenant & I get treated like crap! Maybe it's because I'm white! Anyway, I have also called the cops & they did NOTHING. The cop who responded was very rude to me & acted like my calling him was a big inconvenience to him. The only option I have is to move, which I plan on doing ASAP. The next place I move to, I'm making sure I have no upstairs neighbors! I'm not going through this hell again!

    Bookmark   January 20, 2009 at 2:23AM
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lucy

What does being Mexican have to do with anything??? Maybe you wouldn't be treated like crap if you'd act like a decent human being and not see the world as "us" (white) and "them" (everything else)!

    Bookmark   January 20, 2009 at 6:00AM
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willamae

Keep calling management. Don't let up. Also document EVERYTHING. You might even want to set up a little tape recorder.

I find it odd the girl below you doesn't answer her door..have you conveyed that to management?

Best of luck and keep us posted

    Bookmark   January 21, 2009 at 12:07PM
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lucy

" find it odd the girl below you doesn't answer her door..have you conveyed that to management?" What? Are tenants (especially females) now required by law or something to answer their doors to strangers, especially ones who may be known to be nasty?

    Bookmark   January 21, 2009 at 1:01PM
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rivkadr

Wow, lucy, chip on your shoulder much?

There's absolutely nothing in the OP to suggest that she's nasty. The nasty one here is the neighbor below who is intentionally waking up the OP in the middle of the night. The neighbor below obviously knows she's in the wrong and is refusing to come to the door because she's scared to deal with it.

Definitely keep contacting the management, and document, document, document every time that you do. If they don't take care of this after a certain amount of time, frankly I'd break my lease and move elsewhere...and just try to let them collect the money. If they took me to court over it, I'd show the documentation that they refused to resolve the situation, and it was untenable -- surely her doing this violates some clause in your lease?

    Bookmark   January 22, 2009 at 2:18AM
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thegrinch17

You are a rude person, aren't you? I was nice enough to respond to your stupid post & you jump my ass because you didn't like that I used the word "Mexican". Would you rather I use the terms "Wetback" or "Spic"? Now those are derogatory terms, the word Mexican isn't! So you know where you can stick your opinions, Lucy! I hope your downstairs neighbor keeps pounding as hard as she can every night & she keeps you up so you never get any sleep. Maybe you'll learn to keep you fat mouth shut & keep your nasty opinions to yourself. I bet she's pounding for a reason. You are probably not telling us the whole story. You're probably the one who pounds on the ceiling to keep her awake. I've dealt with people like you before. People who don't have a life & live to annoy & harass their neighbors. There's a word for people like you, but I won't say it here...

    Bookmark   January 22, 2009 at 2:58AM
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lucy

Rivkadr - you're right about who's at fault here, and think it was a knee-jerk reaction to having lived in apts many years ago, and having unknown or semi-unknown men come to the door unexpectedly - would not answer unless the peephole showed someone I was expecting or wanted to talk to.

    Bookmark   January 22, 2009 at 6:21AM
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rivkadr

grinch, you're confusing the OP with a different lucy. The lucy who responded to you is not the original poster with the problem.

    Bookmark   January 22, 2009 at 2:16PM
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lucy

Thanks Rivka - wish she'd use a diff. name :-)!

    Bookmark   January 22, 2009 at 4:05PM
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thegrinch17

My apologies to you, Lucy! When I saw the name Lucy, I thought it was the same person who posted this topic who was being nasty to me! My mistake. To the Lucy starting all of the trouble on this thread, you know where you can stick your unwanted, asinine opinions! LOL! :)

    Bookmark   January 23, 2009 at 4:11AM
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thegrinch17

By the way, I want to add that this Lucy person seems to be making this sort of thing a habit, going on other people's threads & being nasty to other people who have posted before her. For an example of what I'm talking about, go onto this thread & scroll down towards the bottom of the page to see her nasty comments:
http://ths.gardenweb.com/forums/load/apt/msg011942302311.html?66
She's just a downright nasty troll. If she keeps it up, I'm going to turn her into this website & hopefully she'll be banned from coming on here again.

    Bookmark   January 23, 2009 at 5:02AM
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willamae

"What? Are tenants (especially females) now required by law or something to answer their doors to strangers, especially ones who may be known to be nasty?"

WOW. In fact lucy, I do find it odd. True, there is no law requiring someone to open their door. I just think, if someone knocked at my door, I'd look out the peep hole (if there is one), take note of whether or not that person looks reasonable (AND I KNOW THERE ARE SOME CREEPS OUT THERE THAT LOOK REASONABLE) and answer. I'm not some idiot. I know one shouldn't just BLINDLY open their door...damn

Also, if the OP lets the management know she tried talking to the neighbor one on one, the management would be informed of effort on the OPs part.

    Bookmark   January 23, 2009 at 1:27PM
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dilly_dally

The neighbor below obviously knows she's in the wrong and is refusing to come to the door because she's scared to deal with it.

That is just an assumption.

I would NEVER answer my door to anyone who was not expected. You can't tell by "just looking at someone" if they are dangerous.

*Better safe than sorry. Better rude than raped.*

    Bookmark   January 23, 2009 at 4:52PM
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rivkadr

Um...the OP is a woman (her name is lucy). I'm a fairly paranoid, nervous person myself since I have, in fact, been sexually assaulted, but even I don't worry about getting raped by other women.

One can also assume that since the OP knows that the person below her is a woman, that they've at least passed each other once or twice in the hallway or stairs (else how would she know that the person below is female?). If I looked out my peephole and saw a neighbor, I would open the door...unless I was doing something incredibly wrong and rude to that neighbor and didn't want to be confronted.

    Bookmark   January 23, 2009 at 8:21PM
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getmeouttathisapt

I personally think this sounds like harassment and worthy of legal action.
I would file a complaint with the office..in writing and call the police..having a record.I would call the police every time she does this.If it doesn't stop w/in a week of police calls..or the landlord doesn't do something after all of that.If you can afford it..call a lawyer.Otherwise...if you don't mind moving and can afford it...just do that and save yourself all the drama.
Good Luck!

    Bookmark   January 26, 2009 at 9:29PM
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lucy

OMG!!! That explains something! I just looked at the OP's first post, and read her name (apart from the fact it's the same as mine), and it finally sunk in (can take a while :-) that she IS female. Where the heck did I get the idea she wasn't? I must have been reading something else somewhere along the way and just assumed she was male - can you now all get why I was responding to things the way I did? SORRY!!

    Bookmark   January 27, 2009 at 6:14AM
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lasershow

Add me to the list of people who never answers her door unless she is expecting someone. We do have an intercom and if I'm not expecting someone, I don't acknowledge the buzzer. I figure if, on the off chance it was one of my friends popping in, they would call me on their cellphone and say, "Hey are you home? I'm downstairs!" But I live alone and I've had uncomfortable experiences with repairmen, so I just don't answer, period.

    Bookmark   February 10, 2009 at 7:22PM
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willamae

DEAR GOD do I regret ever suggesting you try to speak to this person directly, by knocking on their door.

to the OP has anything changed or happened?

    Bookmark   February 12, 2009 at 2:26PM
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black-thumb

Lucy tenant

Sorry to hear about this happening. I know you say your trying to be careful about the noise but it sounds like the building just won't let that happen. Old buildings carry noise. She probably assumes your not trying to be careful so figures the best approach is a childish one and make noise when your sleeping.

If she won't answer the door, which I don't do either since you never know and sometimes women are the hook to get you to trust, rare but it does happen. ( I missed a package once because the guy didn't look like a regular delivery person. lol)

Anyway maybe you could try writing her a letter stating that you try to keep the noise down but the building is just old and that you would like to talk to try and reach some kind of understanding between the two of you. Keep a copy and document everthing if you can tape the noise she makes in the wee hrs of the morning just in case she still refuses to try and be mature and work it out.

As to the other thing.

I didn't understand what the people being mexican had to do with the issue either. Sorry.

    Bookmark   February 16, 2009 at 3:50AM
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